“Mommy, Somebody Needs You.”

by Megan Minneman Morton

Ever since we brought our new daughter home, her older brothers have been the first to tell me when she is crying, whimpering, or smelling a little suspicious.  “Somebody needs you,” they say.  I have no idea how this little saying started, but at first it sort of annoyed me.  I could be enjoying a quick shower… “Mommy, somebody needs you.  The baby is crying.”  Or, sitting down for a second, quite aware that the baby was beginning to stir from a nap…. “Mama, somebody needs you!”  Okay!  I get it already!  And not to mention that the newborn’s needs pale in comparison to the needs of 2 little boys.  Somebody always needs a snack, a band-aid, a different sock, ice cubes in their water, a NEW Paw Patrol, a stream of snot wiped, a hug, a story, a kiss.  Some days never seem to end, and the monotony of being “needed” can really take its toll. Then, it all started to hit me, they need ME.  Not anybody else.  Not a single other person in the whole world.  They need their Mommy.

The sooner I can accept that being Mommy means that I never go off the clock, the sooner I can find peace in this crazy stage of life.   That ‘Mommy’ is my duty, privilege and honor. I am ready to be there when somebody needs me, all day and all night.  Mommy means I just put the baby back down after her 4am feeding when a 3-year-old has a nightmare.  Mommy means I am surviving on coffee and toddler leftovers.  Mommy means my husband and I haven’t had a real conversation in weeks.  Mommy means I put their needs before my own, without a thought.  Mommy means that my body is full of aches and my heart is full of love.

I am sure there will come a day when no one needs me.  My babies will all be long gone and consumed with their own lives.  I may sit alone in some assisted living facility watching my body fade away.  No one will need me then.  I may even be a burden.  Sure, they will come visit, but my arms will no longer be their home.  My kisses no longer their cure.  There will be no more tiny boots to wipe the slush from or seat belts to be buckled.  I will have read my last bedtime story, 7 times in a row.  I will no longer enforce time outs.  There will be no more bags to pack and unpack or snack cups to fill.  I am sure my heart will yearn to hear those tiny voices calling out to me, “Mommy, somebody needs you!”

So for now, I find beauty in the peaceful 4am feedings in our cozy little nursery.  We are perched above the naked oak trees in our own lavender nest.  We watch the silent snow fall and a bunny scampering across its perfect white canvas.  It’s just me and my little baby, the neighborhood is dark and still.  We alone are up to watch the pale moon rise and the shadows dance along the nursery wall.  She and I are the only ones to hear the barn owl hooting in the distance.  We snuggle together under a blanket and I rock her back to sleep.  It’s 4am and I am exhausted and frustrated, but it’s okay, she needs me.  Just me.  And maybe, I need her too.  Because she makes me Mommy.  Some day she will sleep through the night.  Some day I will sit in my wheelchair, my arms empty, dreaming of those quiet nights in the nursery.  When she needed me and we were the only two people in the world.

Can I enjoy being needed?  Sometimes, sure, but often it is tiring.  Exhausting.  But, it isn’t meant to be enjoyed every moment.  It is a duty.  God made me their Mom.  It is a position I yearned for long before I would ever understand it.  Over a 3 day weekend my husband couldn’t believe how many times our boys kept saying, “Mommy.  Mommy.  Mommy”!  “Are they always like this?” he asked not able to hide his terror, and sympathy.  “Yep.  All day, everyday.  That’s my job.”  And I have to admit that it is the toughest job I have ever had.  In a previous life I was a restaurant manager for a high volume and very popular chain in Palm Beach Gardens, Florida.  A Saturday night at 7:30pm with the expo window overflowing with dishes, a 2 hour wait, and the electricity inexplicably going out has got nothing on a Tuesday, 5:00pm at the Morton house.  And let me tell ya, South Florida diners are some of the toughest to please.  But, they are a cake walk compared to sleep-deprived toddlers with low blood sugar.

Once upon a time, I had time.  For myself.  Now, my toe nails need some love.  My bra fits a little differently.  My curling iron might not even work anymore, I don’t know.  I can’t take a shower without an audience.  I’ve started using eye cream.  I don’t get carded any more.  My proof of motherhood.  Proof that somebody needs me.  That right now, somebody always needs me.  Like last night…

At 3am I hear the little footsteps entering my room.  I lay still, barely breathing.  Maybe he will retreat to his room.  Yeah right.

“Mommy.”

“Mommy.”  A little louder.

“Yes”.  I barely whisper.

He pauses, his giant eyes flashing in the dim light.

“I love you.”

And just like that, he is gone.  Scampered back to his room.  But, his words still hang in the cool night air.  If I could reach out and snatch them, I would grab his words and hug them to my chest.  His soft voice whispering the best sentence in the world.  I love you.  A smile curls across my lips and I slowly exhale, almost afraid to blow the memory away.  I drift back to sleep and let his words settle into my heart.

One day that little boy will be a big man.  There will no longer be any sweet words whispered to me in the wee hours.  Just the whir of the sound machine and the snoring husband.  I will sleep peacefully through the night, never a worry of a sick child or a crying baby.  It will be but a memory.  These years of being needed are exhausting, yet fleeting.  I have to stop dreaming of “one day” when things will be easier.  Because, the truth is, it may get easier, but it will never be better than today.  Today, when I am covered in toddler snot and spit up.  Today, when I savor those chubby little arms around my neck.  Today is perfect.  “One day” I will get pedicures and showers alone.  “One day” I will get myself back.  But, today I give myself away, and I am tired, and dirty and loved SO much, and I gotta go.  Somebody needs me.

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    • Love this! It sums up being a Mommy is one of the greatest Blessings. I still hold on to that being a nurturer. I love caring for others. My children are 34 and 30 , they have given me Grandchildren , in which I can still enjoy the feeling of being needed!

    • Thanks you for the perspective. Reminded me of the blessing that Motherhood is in a world where that thought can quickly be lost. Beautifully said.

  1. My children are 27 and 17. They still need me and they still say I love you. But it doesn’t compare to holding them in your arms and reading stories and wiping noses. There is just something so special in the close intimate contact you have when they are small. Now, go hug your mom and tell her you love her and just talk to her like you would a friend. Spend a hour or two just sharing your life with her, Now you have the best of both worlds!!

    • What you say, Sue, is so true! The older children have needs, but they are very different and not near as often. But, grandchildren are a blessing, too!!! They don’t need you, but they want you! :)

  2. I love this post! It’s so true! Keep up the great work! I’m loving on my 3-1/2-year-old, 23-month-old, and 7-month-old girls these days with much the same perspective. It will get easier, but it doesn’t get better. Precious moments, these are!

  3. This is one of the most beautiful things I have ever read. I have a four year old son and a three month old baby boy, and I will savor these moments a little more after reading this. Thank you.

  4. Megan, you really grabbed me with this blog. I am a grandmother now but with a rich supply of memories. I remember rocking and feeding my first child while listening to the news of the Bay of Pigs disaster. But I was so deeply soothed by my baby and me that I couldn’t feel afraid….nothing could bother this rocking and feeding and feeling her warmth next to me! Now, I’m struggling with my own website and have learned some things from yours. Thank you for both! I will be following you.

  5. This made me cry. It’s heart-rending and beautiful, and I will snuggle my sweet 8-month old a little tighter tonight. Thank you for writing this.

  6. Beautifully told…I remember those days…my children are now 24 and 27. What I wouldn’t give to go back and have an evening of baths, bedtime stories and rocking them to sleep. It went by so fast.

  7. Wow. You made me cry. It’s a good cry though. It has been a long week with a toddler. That followed another long week. And I can’t remember the week before that, but I am sure it was filled with snotty noses, dirty faces and diapers, nights of my two year old not staying in bed until midnight, and we have an early morning for a music class. I was just thinking of skipping. But you know what, somebody needs me…he needs me to drive him, he needs me to make sure he gets down the stairs okay, he needs my help with the instruments, he needs my help when the entire class dances around to make sure he doesn’t get knocked down because it is crowded, he needs me to remind him to say hi to the other kiddos instead of squealing at them, and well, he just needs me, needs me, needs me. And it has never felt so good to feel needed. I read once it is a basic human need. Maybe that is why these will probably be the best times of my life. And I needed your little reminder of that. I guess I needed you today too, and you don’t even know me. Your blog post was needed tonight. Thank you. Thanks for making the time after all your mommy duties to write this. I will definitely share this.

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  9. And someday when your 22 year old boy bends down to give you a hug and says “I love you, mom”, that moment will come rushing right back and be as fresh and new as it was this time. :)

  10. Very true, I cried. Thank you soo much. I have three under the age of 4 and miss being me, this came at the right time, thank you :*

  11. Like a breath of poetry this enters into my heart, plants a seed of beautiful anticipation, and sheds tears to tell ne me it’s there. I am not a father yet, an elementary teacher so I can relate to the constant call of my name followed by something they need, but am looking forward to the day I hold my child for the first time. I love him/her already seeing them when i sleep and hear their laughter when I’m feeling alone. My wife and I decided to wait until we are financially stable with a home for all of us. I hope each day that is the best decision, because it would break my heart to never meet him/her.
    As for all you mothers, you are what is beautiful in this world. I love my mom so much for what she sacrificed, for what she taught us (my brother and me), for the memories, triumphs, and heartache. She did it on her own, my father bailed when i was 3, and i used to feel so empty, like i was missing something that everyone else had. It took me years to see that my mom was giving more of herself to fill in that missing space so i would not go into the world empty inside.
    I cannot wait to be the father i never had, because i have a mom who taught me how to be one.
    Love for all you mothers, keep being incredible, beautiful, caring, inspirations.
    Thank you for the perspective.

  12. Beautiful Story and so true! I just wanted to say my Children are 36 and 31 and they do still tell me they love me but also you never ever stop worrying about your Children, I always thought once they were Married and had their own Homes and Children that would go away, it sure does not!

  13. Well said. It brought tears to my eyes.
    Nothing more important than this special time and privilege. Extremely tiring, but nonetheless a blessing that will likely be missed one day.
    It is for me.

  14. BEAUTIFUL. My son is grown. My mommy in the nursing home. I love her and need her. My son still needs me but in a different way. I sleep through the night unlike the first three years of his life. My tears testify to the truth of your words. Those were precious times I wouldn’t trade for anything.

  15. This is a very sad piece about a woman who seems to think procreation is all that she has to offer the world because she is a woman. Maybe hidden inside she has amazing talents and passions to be a painter, a singer, a doctor, an economist, a sculptor, a business whiz… She’ll never know because he’s content to give all of herself to another generation. The world needs women to run today’s society as leaders in business, government, and beyond. Those leaders can also be mothers. It’s absurd to suggest that a child needs 100% of your time and talents, even unhealthy. I hated this article.

    • I do know my talents and passions and I am proud that I have chosen to spend the current time of my life dealing with the results of procreation. I loved working as a restaurant manager, event planner, and as a fundraising director for one of our nation’s largest non-profit organizations. I am not “content” giving myself to the next generation, that is why I wrote the post. It is darn hard and many women’s inner conflict, trying to find the pieces they remember of themselves while sacrificing for their children. I don’t want to be a government or business leader, I am doing exactly what I want to do. I have my own business doing what I love in addition to being a parent. I love using my God-given ability to write for therapuetic reasons and to touch other people. I write because I love to and if I can bring someone a smile, I have been a success. I don’t want anyone to be upset after reading my work so please do not visit my site in the future. I appreciate your viewpoint and will certainly not judge you for it as you have judged me.

      • Thank you for your superb response. I too made the choice to raise my children myself instead of having some unknown daycare provider doing the most important job in the world. If and when a woman decides to bring another life into the world they should consider who is actually going to be raising the child. I have raised my children and they are grown now and blessing me with my adorable grandchildren. Thus far they have all raised their own children and not depended on someone else to rear their children. I have had a wonderful and satisfying career and am now enjoying my retirement years with my husband, children, and grandchildren. Sometimes the simplest things, like kissing a boo-boo, or wiping tears from your childs face are the substance of life. I always tell new mothers-to-be “Don’t Blink” it will be over before you know it and you will miss your little ones “needing” you. They will always need you just in differing ways. I really enjoyed your article and it brought back many many wonderrful memories. Keep up the good work. Your children will be better for it in the end.

    • Wow. These are your insecurities, not the writer’s. Don’t make the mistake of projecting that onto other women. We all make choices, and if they’re not the ones that you would make, that’s not wrong but simply different. She seems to be completely at peace with her life. Are you?
      We need women who choose to be incredible and smart mothers, and women who choose to be incredible and smart leaders, and women who choose both.

  16. yes. somebody needs you. i am going to print those words so i can see them everyday, when i’m tired, frustrated, feeling alone in a house full of the noise of 3 toddler boys. somebody needs ME. thank you.

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  18. Some mornings I am grateful for a belly laugh from a cute, or cynical cartoon on – line. This morning I am touched because I no longer have a beautiful child, or even grandchild, who needs/wants to climb into my bed/snuggle into my arms on a cold winter morning in the last decades of my life. Good grief! I love those people and treasure being part of the lives of each.

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  20. Immediately wanted to send this to my daughter, so I’ve sent it to her email for a boost – hoping that when she’s checking a bank statement during someone’s nap time she’ll find this. She’s needed by her 4 month old, her 30 month old, and her 13 year old, which means Facebook is not a part of her life. Facebook is for grandmas like me to post pictures and share things like your blog post. Which, by the way, is how I found it. Thanks for writing from the heart.

  21. Oh my goodness, just what I needed to read! I have three kiddos (5, 4, and 2) and someone always needs something too! I have been sick this week, but there are no sick days for moms either! And they still need to eat even if you are sick! 😉 Thank you for sharing and for your perspective. I have heard it said that the days are long but the years fly by with little ones, and I cannot agree more! It’s crazy that I have been doing this mom job for over five years, but I am sure in the blink of an eye they will be grown. Blessings to you as you serve your little ones today and everyday!

    • It is overwhelming, the demand, the need they have for us, ONLY US, Only MOM!! Dad is Good, But MOM is Great and I to was sick last week and managed to keep everyone feed and dressed and out to catch the bus on time… I got extra snuggles and kisses because they knew I was sick, but Moms do not get sick days, so I still pushed through and then yesterday when my son got home, he said, are you still sick mommy, because I just want you to feel better, but ill lay with you if you want me too… and I knew It was time to get up from the couch and make him and his sisters a snack… so we did it together and I loved it, laughing with them, cleaning up the milk Jocie spilled and peeling the cheese off the floor McKay dropped and Julius Giggling when I tripped on the area rug and flew into the dishwasher…they were happy and that makes me happy!! <3 I know Ill miss it one day and I know there are days when I wish I were not needed every second… but I would rather run myself ragged for them, instead of not have them to worry for at all… Children are the one gift we cherish all our lives,,,, and Im thankful for this article!! Julius, Jocelynn and McKay Pearl… Mommy NEEDS you!! <3

  22. This is the most dignified piece on motherhood I’ve read in a long long time. Compared to the “3 year old’s are a**holes” I was subjected to come across last night.
    Thank you so much for this truth, the depth of sacrifice and the wisdom of appreciating it in the moment… this will be printed and hung on my wall.
    -currently pregnant with #5.

  23. I am sobbing right now. I raised 4 children and am getting closer to the wheelchair years. This is so incredibly true! Thank you for understanding and bless you for figuring it out so early!

  24. I am sitting here sobbing after reading this. So beautifully said. I needed to hear this more than so know. Thank you!

  25. OH, yes, these are special days. Now they may seem endless, tiring and yet rewarding in ways you could not imagine.

    My babies are 36, 31 and 26, but now I have GRANDCHILDREN. Just about the time you think yours are grown and gone you’ll , if you are lucky, have the opportunity to find out that they are called GRANDS for a very good reason!

    Then you will find a different relationship with them and your own child that will fill your cup and your heart with so much love and gratitude.

    Enjoy and cherish them while they are small enough to hold, It doesn’t last long and when it is gone, it cannot be retrieved, only relived in warm memories.

    You are doing a tough, demanding, important job, and you will never, ever have a more important title than “Mommy”, nor will any amount of money pay you in the way this job does..Enjoy it!

    Thanks for sharing

  26. Take it from someone who works in an assisted living, enjoy every runny nose, muddy boot, stinky diaper. It’s goes by way to fast.

  27. Wow! I thought I felt alone in this busy world! I LOVE my job as a Mommy! People use to say “make your husband help you” an I’d think to myself. NO I love my job why would I push it off on him? My children are all school age now but I still love my job as MOMMY! Thank you so much for sharing this with every man woman an child! You are so correct! Someone needs you! Hold on to those times they end all to quickly! God’s blessings to you an your family! ♥

  28. Wow! This will bring any Momma to tears..Those are some true and powerful words.I do feel your pain,I also feel the love on a daily basis..Kids are hard work.I will slow down a little more and enjoy being needed a little more after reading this.Being a Mommy to 4 children 4 and under is challenging and it dues at times feel like you have lost yourself but I do quickly remind myself it’s so worth it..

  29. Now I am on the other end of the continuum, my Dad needs me. I see all the women at the assisted living center waving their hands to invisible family. Your writing brings me back to the days of my young sons clamouring for mom.

  30. I just want to tell you that was beautiful. I’m sitting here crying and feel exactly the same. You but my feelings into words. Thank you

  31. Thank you. I am 65, a Mommy of two and Grannie of one. Many years since two in the morning feedings and helping with homework, however, your words flooded my heart with the sweetest memories of my life.

  32. OMG! This woman should be a writer as well as a Mommy! It is soooo important to realize what she is saying WHILE your kids are still young.

  33. Beautiful!! Have you ever read the children’s book, “Love You Forever”? It is one of the sweetest, most heart-touching books. You might even need a tissue. But it describes being a Mom as perfectly as you have. Even though our babies grow up, they will always need their Mom. :)

  34. I can relate to this as a single Mom bringing up 4 kids and still working full time and now watching my children raise my Grandchildren! This article is right on! Cherish those moments because there will come a time when they feel they don’t need you anymore! And of course then they’ll mature and see you always need your Mother!

  35. I’m glad the Paw Patrol obsession is not just in my house! I’m actually sitting here rocking my 3 year old while my 1 year old plays at my feet and the house is not getting cleaned. No where else I’d rather be!

  36. Brought tears to my eyes as I hold my 2 month old daughter. I’ve been cherishing every 4am feed as I know they will soon end. While I would enjoy sleeping through the night, I will miss waking with her and spending that time together. So I don’t rush this at all!

  37. Rest assured, someone will always need you. Even when you are old and frail, they will need your tender touch, your appreciative words and the memories that you encourage. I am my mother’s caregiver and while she worries that she is a “burden,” I remind her that she is giving me love and purpose in life. To be able to care for a loved one in the final days is one of the best gifts of all, and while the task is unbelievably challenging and it seems that the “needing and giving” are going entirely in the other direction, they are not – so much is gained by the caregiver. It is an experience that I will treasure, and one that I am very honored to hold.

  38. This is beautiful!! My only child, my daughter who is now 33 and has Type 1 diabetes still needs me. She has an eight year old daughter, and my Mom is 90. The demands are many. BUT, they are my world. I love them as much as my next breath. I have learned to cherish whatever season I am in. My husband’s favorite saying “it won’t always be this way” is so true. Time seems to stand still with a sick child, in hospital rooms, but it truly moves quickly. You have the most important job on the face of the Earth. There will always be someone who needs us, if we never stop giving. And what a joy and prevelidge that is!!

  39. Yesterday my baby boy turned 34 and my oldest son is 35, I really do miss those days and nights. Enjoy them while you have them because one day they will be gone and I have all this time with nothing to do with it.

  40. I’m at this stage. Someone needs me. I have 2 boys and a newborn girl. I wouldn’t trade this for the world. The 3am cluster feedings, endless cartoons, watching the same Pixar movie for the billionth time, reading the same book so much you have it memorized, pulling half eaten snacks out of your purse while digging for your debit card at the store, slobbery kisses, cuddles with feet in awkward angles, making several different meals to please everyone, etc. I’m happy to be mommy. I am proud of this achievement. I know that day will come where I wonder where my little babies are as they ask to borrow the car or graduate college.

  41. So beautiful! Thanks for writing this and reminding all us tired moms of how beautiful these moments in life are!

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  43. I may be something of a momma’s boy, but now that mommy is the someone who needs, I am the one who takes the call. I am her first born son, it is my Job, my Duty, and my Pleasure. God made me her son, and now that sometimes she forgets things, and sometimes falls down, I am there to return all of the love and care that she has given to me. It is her turn. I can think of no greater return on the investment that she has made in caring for me. I can’t imagine her sitting alone in some assisted living center looking out alone at the world that she will someday be leaving. Just a little over a week ago she was diagnosed with lung cancer. So we are cherishing all of our today’s. I will always need my Mommy!

  44. YES, exactly . You are the center of someone’s universe, but it is fleeting. As a widow in my 60 s I can tell you I’d change places with you if I still had the physical stamina. All the pedicures, manicures, dinners out, are no match for what you have now.

  45. My sister sent me this to read as we are expecting our second in Sept. I read it pretty unemotionally until the story of your son coming in at 3am and then I lost it, really lost it, I think my husband thought something was really wrong. Thank you for sharing, very beautiful.

  46. Love reading this. I’m sharing this with my daughter and daughter in laws. All mommies of small children. They will love reading your stories.

  47. Loved this. Makes me rethink how I act sometimes. I also have two boys and my 3rd on the way. I need to cherish the time I have now, it will be gone one day.

  48. What incredible wisdom and foresight. I am on the other end of being needed, and there is an odd empty feeling at this stage of life, so I am waiting for grandchildren, where I can look on and enjoy the wonders of parenthood from that perspective…..and hopefully have grandchildren who have wonderful parents, but at times will say “Grandma, I need you!”, then I can do my job and give them back because I can’t run as fast as I used to! :)

  49. Three weeks postpartum with my 7th child. Now I am wiping my own snot too from the incredible joy this brought to my heart as the tears stream down my face. Maybe not the best time to read it as the hormones are flying all over the place but thanks for the reminder that today is the best day ever!! Precious!!

  50. Thank you for reminding me of the joys of motherhood. I just visited a new great grandson, a continuation of my family. The very most rewarding years of my life are the years spent as mother of my five children. Now I continue to see God’s miracles and blessings in each new baby. It is still good to be needed.

  51. Written so beautifully!! Thank you for the reminder that I needed :-) This is the best time of our lives. I don’t want to wish it away, out of exhaustion. Thank you for finding time to write such a special blog post. I am printing it to read as a reminder when I am tired and spent. Thanks!!

  52. My “children” are 30, 27 and 25 and even though they all have their own successful lives I am happy to report that they still need me. Their father always said “no one can do it like Mom can”. And they still believe it :-) It’s not the same kind of need, but it still fills my heart. Especially in the long, quiet hours of the evening that used to be filled with much laughter and the occasional outburst of tears or anger. Cherish the days when they are small for they pass much faster than you can ever imagine. But once those days are gone, while the parent/child relationship may be over He replaces it with friendships far deeper than you can ever imagine. And as a wonderful added bonus He gives you grandchildren! So you are still needed in an even better way!

  53. Being a mommy is the best! My kids are grown and all I remember now are the good times we had. The evenings I let the dishes go, the cleaning go and just sat down to play puzzles or read books or dance to music or when the bathroom floor was wet from crazy bathtime or rocking at bedtime – that’s what I remember! Yes, there was never time for just me but that is not what I remember now! I wouldn’t trade the time with my little ones for anything! Now I have all the time I could possibly want for just ME! I’m now a Grandma and it is great! i again get to give baths, read stories, play Barbies and cars, and receive sticky kisses and hugs! And, even though it appears I hang out with my grandchildren to give my daughters a break from being mommy, I’m doing it for my selfish reason of cherishing the beautiful memories of when I was a young mother! My favorite time now is when my children call to talk or come to visit and I hear the words I LoveYou! Thank you God for giving me 3 of the best children ever! Thank you God for giving me the strength, energy, patience and love needed during the time of raising my children. Please bless all the young mommys struggling with the words “Mommy, I need you!” and give them the strength and enery they need!
    I love you Jami, Jenna and Andrew! I am so honored to be your Mommy all these years!

  54. Beautiful. What a wonderful gift to your children when they become parents. They will get to share your feelings and know that Moms are loving, but they do get tired. Sometimes being a Mom looks so easy and parents wonder if they are doing everything right when it is not easy. You are a great Mom and a wonderful writer. Thanks for sharing.

  55. cried like a baby reading this. I am a nurse in an assisted living facility and see first hand every day how some of our residents are no longer “needed” by their families. It is a privilege to be a mom and to needed by our kids-or anyone for that matter! beautifully written! Thank you

  56. A truly great read , put a lump in my throat and a tear in my eye remembering my wonderful mother, a great lady who raised ten children and never complained I don’t know how she found the time. Miss. her ever day .

  57. Beautifully written and is a good reminder of how precious, and important motherhood is. There are times I miss my girls being little so much. They are 50 and 47 now, but they still say I Love You and no matter how old they get, they will forever be my little girls and I will always be their Mommy! For those of you who still have little ones, enjoy. The time goes faster than you can imagine.

  58. Exactly as I remember. Wonderful times to be cherished moment by trying moment because they really DO grow up … overnight it seems but the memories remain … forever.

  59. <3 <3 <3 Love, Love, Love this!! You have taken the thoughts out of my head and written them down! What a wonderful reminder to everyone! Have a blessed week! And thank you!

  60. I cried reading this, so beautifully well written and just what I needed as a pick me up today. Thank you.

  61. Thank you. I really needed to read this today. It has been a little rough around here, with 3 kids under 4; with the 4 year old being the one giving me the hard time after not really letting me sleep.

  62. This was an incredible read. Some days we don’t know what we will be missing in this stage of life. I know it is totally hard to be starting a business when I have a 2 and 3 year old. But this article is inspiration to never forget who I am doing this for anyway. I need to take the moments with them and enjoy them. There will never be another today.

  63. I have two sons, they’re 32 and 25, now. Your blog really hit home for me because one, my youngest,lives in Florida now, while I’m in California. I miss him a lot! My oldest lives locally, thank goodness! We’re struggling together , he and I , to fight my cancer, and I don’t know what I’d do without him. Keep those babies close, guard them, teach and love them with all you’re worth. What comes from that is priceless! Sincerely, Shelley Morrison

    • Shelley, I sure do love my boys and I am so glad you have one of them close to help you in your fight. I will certainly say a prayer that you win your battle quickly!

  64. Maybe because my “I need you” years are almost over, I am in tears. I am on the other side of those years with a 21 year old and almost 18 year old. Enjoy every minute ~ it is the most important job you will do and it will be over in a second. God bless you and your family.

  65. This was so beautifully written. Thank you for posting this. It’s a nice little reminder to enjoy these wonderful years of exhaustion with our children because in a blink of am eye they will be grown and leaving home. But one thing i’ve learned is that we all need our ‘mommy’ even as an adult just in a different way from when we are kids.

  66. Absolutely beautiful! I am the mother of 2 and grandmother of 5. I thank God every day for them and for the fact that they still need me!

    • Of course! I love to hear my Dad’s sentimental stories about my childhood and love watching my husband make the same memories with our kiddos. Dad’s are the BEST!

  67. Of course I thought of my daughter and my 4-month-old grandson. But then I thought of my own mother and felt the overwhelming need to call her and say, “I still need you, Mom.” She’ll be 72 this year.

  68. I loved reading this! I am Mommy to a 3 yr old and a 1 yr old, and am sometimes kinda bad about being possessive of my little “me” time. One that you left out is that Daddy needs Mommy too! Sometimes it’s so hard, after the kids have drained me all day, to be “present” and ready to hear about his day, etc.. But I love them all, and it’s so true that once I accept that they all need me, I can let go of so much unnecessary stress!! Thanks for the reminder :-).

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  70. I’m 75 years old and there are times when I “need my Mommy” but she’s no longer there for me.

  71. This was absolutely beautiful. I have a very demanding almost-two-year old, a 4 year old, and a 6 year old and this was exactly what I needed to read today. Thank you for your beautiful story!

  72. So beautiful and so truthful. I’m right there with you. I’m always hoping for the day that I get to shower alone or not have to struggle to get 3 kids ready when it’s time to leave the house, but the truth is that I know without a doubt that I WILL miss it one day. One day much much sooner than I think. Thank you for writing this and putting everything back into perspective. It is a beautiful piece and much appreciated. I have to go now too. Three little somebodies need me.

  73. Our influence is far reaching. Our love even farther. As mothers, grandmothers, aunts, godparents, foster moms, we’re still “mom”. Memories last a lifetime. Our children are always precious as long as we draw breath. ♡

  74. This brought tears to my eyes! As a mom of two very small children (almost 3 and just over 1), your words struck a deep chord in me. Thank you so much for sharing and encouraging all the moms out there and helping us keep perspective in the slog!

  75. My husband and I just lost a baby and I would give anything in the world to feel needed by a little one instead of this emptiness. Thank you so much for not taking these moments for granted and for recognizing what a gift ‘Mommy’ really is. Many, many blessings to your family:)

    • I don’t know if you want this comment to be public so please delete if not. I am so sorry you have lost a baby. It is such a lonely and empty feeling and I have unfortunately experienced it several times. I am sure I will post about that some time when I can use words to convey the feelings. I understand what you are going through. Please believe that whatever is planned for you and your husband will happen just as it is supposed to. Believe me, I never planned or thought I would be where I am today with my 3. My #2 was quite a shock, born just 13 months after #1. Never would have planned that! You will know the feeling of being needed by a child and when you hold him/her you will know, “oh it was you I waited and longed for all this time!”

  76. Oh my goodness! Just put my needy 11 month old down for a nap, then read this. It had me crying at two different points. Thank you for the perspective and the slap on the head to enjoy every fleeting moment. It WILL go by too quickly. Already has. It also made me want to reach out and tell my mom again how much I love her and still need her. I’ll go do that now!

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  78. Thank you so much for writing this. The past few days have been hard for me with a new born as well as running after a four year old and this post just reminded me how amazing it is to be a mother, even if some times it does seem hard!

  79. Such a beautifully written post… It brought tears to my eyes and I only have one 18 months old daughter… I thought I should let you know that I’ve translated it to Spanish, and published as a note in my Facebook page of parenting (https://www.facebook.com/notes/felices-criando/mami-alguien-te-necesita/627280380676580) with the original link to this blog at the bottom. If you think that’s not ok, please let me know and I’ll take it down. But I found it too beautiful not to share it! Thanks!

  80. I am 22 and I still need my mom all the time for her love and advice.
    I moved away for college out of state, but that doesn’t stop me from calling her, and she answers any time of the day or night.
    I know it’s a mother saying to say, “A child is the best gift a woman can receive.” But moms are equally the best gift a child will ever receive, and you never stop being your mother’s child. You will always be “mommy” and you will always be needed. We love you.

  81. Once again you have shared your gift for expressing true motherhood! I cried at work reading this at work. How I wish we lived closer and could raise all our little ones together! You have always had such a wonderful writing talent!

    • Thanks Cousin Katie! I wish we could be closer, but “one day” we will see each other more! We will put all the munchkins in sleeping bags and turn a basement into a cold air dorm for sleepovers.

  82. as I read this my 3 year old cut his tongue with the nail clippers, my 8 year old is banging on the keyboard and my 6 year old is standing here giving me the puppy dog eyes… Mommy somebody needs you… yeah that about sums up my entire world right now… but let me tell you this your arms will always be home to them… I know when I’ve had a bad day nothing but a hug from my mom makes it better!

  83. I just got home from a seven hour shift at a very busy restaurant and read this! My three babies are gone – just like you wrote about! Enjoy those soft faces and sweet voices! You will long for them one day!

  84. It is so difficult, in the messy moments, to keep this reminder loose in my palm. Thank you for sharing your story in a way that makes it easier for me to live in mine.

  85. The needing never stops and it doesn’t necessarily get easier, it just changes! The rewards change also! My oldest just turned eighteen last week and he still comes into my room late at night to say, hey mom I’m home and I love you! I had the joy staying home and raising my 5 children and enjoyed it and would not trade it for anything! Enjoy your little ones cause I know everyone says it but it’s so true…THEY’RE NOT LITTLE FOR LONG,!

  86. This is so true. Read & keep to remember how much Mommys are needed. It does put that time when we as Mommys are sleep deprived in perspective. This too shall pass, then those moments will be missed.

  87. I was laying here, letting my 1 year old nap on me, but ready to get up and clean while he slept. Then I read this….and I think I will just stay put for now. He needs me for a pillow right now.

  88. I have a 2 and 4 year old and after the last week of being trapped inside by weather I needed this. I became a stay at home mom a year ago and am happy for it, but believe me I have my moments.

  89. I have read countless “mommy blogs” for the last few years on Facebook. This spoke to my heart, to my soul, more than any I have read before. Beautifully written… And so incredibly true. Thank you. I am printing this and putting it on my bathroom wall. And when I brush my teeth (pretty much the only time I have. Ha!) I will see it twice a day. And remember to savor every moment. Beautiful.

  90. This made me cry tears of happiness because my babies are still little, and I’ll be needed for quite some time. Thank you for putting that into perspective!

  91. Wow, I loved this! I cried at least the entire second half!!! Just know that it DOES go way too fast and the day will come that you miss those days! BUT in reference to several things said by you the courageous and loving Momma… Someday when you are in your wheelchair, those little ones will be caring for you, as I do for my Mom every day… you are setting the example of unconditional love…. and someday, you won’t get pedicures alone, you will be getting them with your daughters and/or daughters in laws…. and grandkids… and the cycle goes on! This is so beautiful!

  92. I just read this after I gave a kiss and long hug to my 20 year old ‘baby’ boy who brought 2 of his college roommates home for 24, no, actually 21 and a half hours to help pack up his room and gather his birth certificate and social security card so he can commit to join the army. It brings to mind so many memories: Feeling like a zombie after nearly 5 years of wakeful nights, (now I sleep much better, but I sure do like to get that “made it here safe” text). Accepting his tearful goodbye as I drove out of the parking lot at soccer practice, drove around the block and parked behind another car so he would focus on practice and not be constantly glancing my way ( he ALWAYS, without fail, focused and participated better when he thought I was not there, and although I wanted to be there every minute to return his glances, I knew in my heart that he needed my perceived absence to build his own confidence and be independent). Bursting with pride as he set the record for highest pole vault at his high school which qualified him for state competition (he had tried so hard to qualify 2 years before when he fought to overcome a burst appendix and reconstructive surgery in the middle of track season). My sweet boy still whispers I Love You, Mom. It may not be verbally just so, but he does text, email, and leave me voice mails. He thanks me and so do his friends. Those precious moments do continue, they are different, but just as heart-swelling.

  93. That was so beautiful and refreshing. I have three little ones under the age of 4 and it helped me so much! I forget how beautiful it is to be a mom sometimes .

  94. What a wonderful reminder. I’ve been so anxious for my little guys to get older and gain independence so I can do things like go to the bathroom without an audience. But you’re so right, someday soon the house will be so quiet and I will think of these crazy days fondly. Thank you!

  95. Thankyou for reminding me of why this is worth it every single day. I have a 3yr old and 1yr old and some days I forget that this stage is short. That the days of someone coming up to me saying that they need me are short lived.

  96. Thank you for writing this. It is one of those reads that cuts straight to the heart. I have one child, a just-over-two year old little girl. A needy, overly dramatic little chatterbox, she makes my world go round, but with my hubby working long hours I an often the only one at home with her, and her constantdemands are at times exhausting. Tonight has been particularly trying. She refused everything I offered for supper and then asked for peanut butter toast. Asked numerous times to use the potty with no results and then peed on her slide. No owl jammies. Wants to sleep naked. No bedtime. Need a drink! I tucked her in with a hug and a kiss, feeling frustrated and worn down. This article was exactly what I needed. Thank you for putting things into perspective for me.

  97. Beautifully written and so very true. You spoke to the heart of so many! Some days with a 6 and 4 yr old seem to never end, but I would not trade them for anything in the world. Thank you!

  98. You will always be mommy and “somebody” will always need you. It will be different but just as trying, challenging and heart warming. Mine are 30 (with a baby of his own), 26 and 23. Most of the time it is “Mom” and a very adult relationship, but there are times that I get the Mommy, somebody needs you and it warms my heart. They will always be my babies!

  99. Your duties as a mother never go away…….they just change with time. My children are all grown up and have children of their own and have blessed me with 11 grandchildren and 1 great-grand. No I no longer get up at 3 a.m. with a puking child or nightmares or fears of the dark or lightening storms. I no longer have to lay in bed waiting for the door to slam when they came home from a date, prom or an evening out with friends but my job as their mother never ends. Until I take my last breath I will be their mother and then their mother in spirit. They still call when the are sick, need a shoulder to cry on, someone to listen, someone to share with, a kick in the butt or just nothing. Just mom time. I was with my mom when she passed at the ripe age of 98 and I held her hand and whispered in her ear that it was okay to go, we’d all be okay because she was our mom and she brought us to this moment. She is gone but not in my heart of head. I feel her with me each and every day continuing to guide me and love me. You never stop being a mom.

  100. Wow, as a 60-year old grandmother who doesn’t live near my grandchilds, this really sums it up for me. It would be nice to hear “Mommy, somebody needs you” right about now…………………..

  101. It took me all day to find time to read this. Three little ones 3 & under is exhausting in every way, even with an amazing husband! I need all the encouragement and blessed reminders I can get. Thank you.

  102. I have a fractured ankle and tailbone, my husband has had some long hours and church responsibilities that have kept me in the trenches alone, and just having life with a 4,3,2, and 6 month old has been quite tiring. Thank you for your words are timely and aptly spoken! Blessings

    • Oh my, what a difficult time you’re in! I wish I could bring you a meal and do some laundry for you. Instead, I’ll pray someone will drop by with some food that everyone in your family likes. May God supply your every need!

    • wow, hang in there Momma. There was a season in our house that I was often in the trenches alone with a litter of littles and it was hard. I still look back on that and remember how intense and tiring it could be. Cut yourself some slack because you’ll look back on this and be impressed with what you made it through. On “bedrest” with our last one I swear my kids ate chicken nuggets and granola bars twice a day for weeks. I was mortified as I wanted to raise adventurous eaters that like a variety of vegetables. I have to say that only lasted while it had to and they are all wonderfully adventurous eaters and love all sorts of vegetables. Carry on girl I’ll be praying that your body heals up quickly even if you can’t rest it as much as you probably should.

  103. A few years ago when I was complaining to my mom about how busy our then high school senior was keeping our lives, she commented that I would miss it one day. Well, Mom is gone and our nearly 23 year old left us with an empty nest a couple of years ago and I wish I could tell Mom how right she was. I think that’s really why grandparents are so willing to help – to feel needed again. Thank you for bringing back wonderful memories!

  104. I read this while holding my 8 month old son while he slept. He has been so needy and clingy lately and I’ve been at my wits end. He’s stopped sleeping through the night and I have been grumpy, exhausted, and longing for a night of uninterrupted sleep. But as I read this post, tears streaming down my face, I realized how much he needs me now, and that it won’t always be that way. My life now is so much better with him than without him. Sure, i had time to myself but it was empty. I needed this so much. Instead of feeling frustrated with him, I hugged him a little tighter and kissed his sweet little face. I’m going to read this every now and then to keep perspective. Thank you so much.

  105. My baby girl passed in a car accident on October 26, 2012. Sweet, sweet Melissa was 26 years old. It touched my heart to hear the love of a young mother with the foresight to know that these are the best years of your life. Curling irons are way over rated. Thank you for a nice walk back on memory lane.

  106. Oh my…you hit that nail just right. You have expressed what Moms everywhere would like to say(…and how true those words are!!) Thank you & God bless!!

  107. I have wanted to go back to those days just for a little while many times. They are far too fleeting. Enjoy as much as possible.

  108. Beautiful! I have a 3 month old and though I am tired and just want a few minutes to myself this reminded me to savor this time for it won’t last forever. Thank you!

  109. Having a 4 year old step son, a 3 year old daughter and a newborn born 1/30/14… I’m exhausted. Some days, I feel like I’ve done nothing but help with wiping butts, changing diapers and nursing. By the time my SO walks in the door.. I want to cry, lock myself in a closet, or run out the front door alone.

    Your words remind me that this time will past by quicker than I anticipate. Especially because I’ll be returning to work shortly. The next few years I’ll be lucky to shower or pee without an audience. Its a hectic and crazy life, But this is a life I wouldn’t trade.

  110. I am at that stage where it is all over. Nobody needs me. It flew by so fast. Enjoy it, savor it. It’s the toughest job but the best job.

  111. Today has been a hard day for me. I only have an 8-month-old. The past few hours I’ve been shedding tears over how I haven’t taken care of my needs since my son was born. My husband and I seem to have no time for each other lately. I’ve had De Quervains tenosynovitis since December, and it painfully reminds every time I pick up my son (as though I needed reminding) that I am a mom, and my pain is insignificant. And despite my yearnings to be a mother, and the moments of true joy I experience in it, it is simultaneously the hardest, most trying job in the world. And now, I’m shedding tears that this time is so fleeting. There are moments when time flashes before my eyes and I know my 8-month-old will be a grown man before I know it, and I will wonder where the time went and how just like yesterday it seemed I was giving birth to him. Oh, the ache in my heart. Thank you for the beautiful reminder how precious being a mommy is. Despite the hard work and the days I feel like the shadow of the me I used to know.

  112. So sweet, all of your comments…I am a mother of two beautiful girls and a sister to five siblings and daughter to my only living parent. After my sweet daddy died in 1998, I married and the gave birth the following year to a beautiful little girl. My mother was a wonderful grandmother and her newest granddaughter became her reason to live! I was pregnant again shortly thereafter and 16 months later delivered another beautiful baby girl! My sweet girls and my mother have been very close just as I was with my mother. I have cherished, crafted, catalogued, preserved and memorialized my way through their young years so far. But as I do, I am beginning a new chapter that has left me searching and praying that this circle does not continue…you see I am now my mother’s primary caregiver as she regresses into her own version of infancy. She is being robbed of her memory by the most menacing of thieves, Alzheimer’s Disease.
    I am suddenly catapulted back in time, she struggles with using eating utensils and even with finding the right words for everyday objects. I am blessed to have watched the wonderful bond form between my mother and my children have formed! I want my children to remember those wonderful times even as they help me to dress my mother…the circle of life is fickle and only our Lord and Savior knows our destiny…spend time making things together and don’t throw out those little crafts they made for you on Christmas or Valentines. I have probably gone overboard but I learned to be a mother from my mother and my grandmother, but who teaches us to take care of our aging parents? Our children do and they have taught me that we are needed in different ways in their lives, but sometimes the tables are turned and the need changes hands, and the parent begins to need the child…such is the circle of life…somebody always needs somebody!

    • I will turn 70 in 2 weeks….raised 2 daughters who each have 4 children….cared for my Mom for her last 25 or more years because she was senile….she would have turned 100 this April 4th…..she passed at 98. It was so difficult sometimes….but I miss her so much….even with her loss of so many of her mental abilities….her heart was so warm….and really….who loves you like your Mom! It’s clear that you have your children at home at the same time that you have your disabled mother. I think this is good….because I wanted to share my Mother with my girls and they lived too far away and were busy raising their own children. But, like you, I trust in Jesus and He writes the story, with our meager cooperation. So, as the “Somebody Needs You” author shows us….enjoy every moment….it really doesn’t last long. Oh, and I believe that somehow all my past prepares me for ministry….it’s just less clear when it’s happening.

    • Reading this this morning sure warmed my heart. It’s like a light bulb went off, I really am needed by my 4 beautiful daughter’s. How honored I am & should feel that ONLY ME can comfort them in their times of need. Big or Small only mommy it is! Thanks For Sharing (:

    • Exactly, I have been reading all this posts and crying because I lost my “mommy” three months ago and I was here primary caregiver for the last four months of her life, it was exhausting and a blessing. I miss her so much and I treasured every “I love you” and every unnecessary “thank you” I received in her last days., the circle of life is beautiful and I hope that the author does not end up in a nursing home alone, I hope her children have received enough love from her so that they return all the “I needs” she will need at the end of her life as she gave them in the beginning of theirs.

  113. I don’t know you personally, but I too needed to read this today. Thank you for your words. Thank you for saying what so many mothers feel but cannot verbalize!

  114. Tonight was my yourgest daughter’s 6th birthday. There are times when I have thought the same thing “when they are older it will get easier”. You have put everything into perspecrive for me tonight. As time passes, we are needed less, its true. My late grandmother alway said the same thing “cherish these times, they dont last and you will look back and wish you were there again” I understand now, thanyou!

  115. They will “never” not need you….It continues…it starts all over again …..says thing young grandma of four, rocking her newest little one while mommy trains her replacement!!

  116. At 36 weeks pregnant with twin boys, I am unable to fulfill all of my 3 year old twin girls’ (yes, you’re reading it right have twins, having more twins) needs in the way I am accustomed. I have had the hardest time explaining to others “I just want to get back to being the mom I’m used to being”. This put those feelings into words for me. Thank you for writing this and for being so honest with the feelings that come with being constantly needed.

    • OMG!! You are a lucky mommy to have all that love!!! And yes, your hands will be full. :) best of luck on your second set of 2!!! This is the best article I gave read in awhile and just what I needed today. I have a 3 and 2 yr old plus trying to work and everything else mommy’s do!!!! It’s always nice to be reminded we aren’t alone :)

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  118. This is beautiful! Exactly how I feel every day. I try so hard to remember that one day they will no longer need me, and I will be sad. Some days I remember better than others. Thanks for writing!

  119. I feel the exact same way! Thank you for this… I used to think to myself, I wish I could have “me” back, but my heart changed when I realized that these moments when my son needs me are fleeting. It’s not going to be forever that I’ll be exhausted from the “Mommy” calls in the middle of he night. Soon he won’t want me to snuggle him anymore, and it made me feel bittersweet. I can’t begin to tell you how many times I’ve said “This is the hardest job I’ve EVER done”. It SO is, and if anyone says differently, they are crazy! Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I’m going to feature this article on my website!

  120. I loved reading your piece. It made me smile as I remembered my nights in the rocking chair, nursing my babies while everyone else slept. Now my girls are all mommies with their own children and I get to enjoy them as friends. The best part is being the Grammy who wipes the runny nose, reads the bed time story 7 times, or plays one more game of Candyland. My husband of 48 years loves me and all my sagging parts. Life in the empty nest is wonderful. And don’t worry, you will still get calls in the middle of the night saying “Mommy, I need you”.
    My mother died last year at the ripe age of 93. I sat with her as she left this world. I wanted to be there…she needed me and I needed her. What a blessing it is to be given the gift of motherhood.

  121. So beautiful and true. My memories of my boys are precious. Being a Mom is the absolute best thing I ever did.

  122. Today my precious daughter, my only child, turned 25, and it was the first birthday in her life that we did not at least see each for an hour or two. She and her husband came for dinner last night, but today was spent with their best friends in the city, and I did not see her at all. Your words brought back all of those precious memories of times when I felt like I just never wanted to hear the word “Mama!” again, and made me wish I could hear the word a million more times now. Thank you for sharing.

  123. A beautiful read. I loved it. My imagination went wild while read and then re-read because I daydreamed at the same time. If you feel the need to write another, I hope I get to read it..
    Blessings from John. Canada.

  124. This is so true. My husband and I tried for 6 years to have our first child. Now he is 12 years old, also have an almost 11 year old 2nd son, 9 1/2 year old daughter, and baby girl will be 7 years old at the end of May. I sometimes get caught up in beginning pulled in 4 different directions, All 4 are needing less of me now. I lost my dad almost 4 years ago. I feel my Mom needing me more as she turns 75 this year. One day I hope they will think of me in the Assisted Living Center so wanting a visit from them.

  125. Oh to have those years when my children were small back again, sigh. I now have 16 beautiful grandchildren to love on and do for when I can. I love it! But when my mind goes back, (which seems a lot more frequent the older we get) I remember the hectic, non stop, hussle bussle of life when the children were young, and oh to have that back again, so I could hold them one more time on my lap and sing to them. I guess, I still can dream :)

  126. Oh my, no truer words have been spoken. I often want to go back and relive those precious moments knowing how much more patient I would be, kinder, more relaxed, a better listener than fixer…But, time marches swiftly on, children grow up and the joy of being a grandparent is much sweeter. In some ways, being a grandparent allows us to have a do-over of sorts.

  127. My boys are now 32 and 25, and thankfully they each still need me from time to time. They will each ask for their own Mommy and me time. My oldest is a police officer on the night shift and he calls me at the end of every shift so I know he is okay. He calls me when his day goes wrong and he just needs to know someone will hang onto every word he says. He shares his victories with me too. My youngest also works nights he still lives with me and I wait up for him every night. My husband thinks I’m crazy cause they are no longer “babies”. But what he will never understand is that they are always my babies and my world will stop when they need me….because they need me. God has entrusted these boys to me, and I have raised them to be gentlemen who sometimes still need their Mommy.

    • well said…my kids are now in their mid-30’s. They still need their mom, at times more intensely as life problems get bigger, but less frequently than when we were all under one roof. I will ALWAYS be here for them…that’s my heart, my life, my being. The grandkids are just starting to need me too, but nothing compared to how much they need their Mom, as it should and will always be. I, as so many others have said, live in fear of the ‘senior home’ and being a duty rather than a need, let’s just hope I am too senile to notice!

  128. Enjoy every moment because the years will vanish and the children you love will be grown, venturing out to start a home of their own.

  129. What a great writer you are! I certainly can relate to all of it. Try though your best to make time for yourself. Teo still does not sleep through, I to say to myself it will pass and I will miss these nights.

  130. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for this …I have been struggling as a single mom with 3 kids…2 girls and a boy..and yes I love them more than words can describe..but.there are times and many of them that I get completely frustrated with them being disobedient and not listening and fighting with eachother. Sometimes I feel like it’s a losing battle. I feel hopeless…and have no idea what to do. I work a full time job, have a business on the side, kids do activities such as dance twice a week and girl scouts…add up that and all the driving back and forth to get them to those places…it feels like I’m never home and never have time for myself…I truly needed to hear and read these words..Thank you!

  131. I am a grandmother of the most beautiful 2 little human beings in this entire world, I hear all of what mothers are saying including my own beautiful daughter, my grandbabies live with me and I wouldn’t want anything different in this whole world. I love them they are my world.

  132. I am a young mom and I all too often find myself feeling like I have lost my identity. I used to have so many hobbies and I took such good care of myself (hair, nails etc) and now I just don’t have the time for it.

    This really put it into perspective for me. Sure I’ve thought about something like this before but this article really made me realize that I am going through a season of life with my little ones, a time of life that will pass too quickly and I will never get back. Just the thought of that makes me cry. Thank you thank you thank you for writing this.

  133. This is just what I needed to get me through the day with my insanely, hyper & wild 2 year old daughter. Children are true blessings. I need my Braelynn more than she needs me sometimes. God may only know where I’d be without her perfect, sassy, always so happy self. She is my biggest, most unexpected, well appreciated blessing for the Lord. I thank him everyday for giving lame-o me the blessing of being her mother & tending to her ever demanding need.

  134. All I can say is thank you. I am not a mother myself, but this is exactly what my mother needed. I’ll try to make this short, three nights ago my sister and I came home from the gym and I could tell my mother had been crying. After I begged her to tell me what was wrong, she cried as she said “I feel like nobay needs me.” I talked with her and tried to calm her down and told her to think of what made her think that, what triggered it. She went in her room and 20 minutes later came out crying saying she knows what it was. We were at the mall last weekend and she saw the cutest little twin boys. I was trying on clothes and she made me hurry up just to show me them. My sister is almost 23, I am 20, I have two younger brothers 13, and 10. She is sad that we are not babies anymore. I would be too. So this really put it into perspective and I will definitely be showing this to her tomorrow. If she can get through reading the whole thing without breaking down. So I thank you again. This was such a beautiful article.

  135. Thank you for writing this! It is SO true and I need to remember that these moments may feel long, but are so short. I will miss this one day. This article made my baby fever kick in big time. Lol

  136. This is lovely and I am so glad that amid the chaos you can capture those moments of joy. Your perspective is beautiful.

    Please do take a break though. On the next weekend Let them call for Daddy for a few hours while you get those toes done, or read in a coffee shop, or take a nap. Our little ones need whole, healthy mommies. You are going to be tired and it’s ok if coffee and a PBJ are occasionally considered lunch – but don’t let that be the norm. Healthy food, as much sleep as you can fit in and some time to do your own thing are vital.

    I have btdt (and now I have teenagers!), you can’t give them what you don’t have.

    Nurture yourself too, because “Mommy somebody needs you.”

  137. With 3 adult sons, (2 married), and relationships somewhat fractured, I am thankful for my memories of those sweet days, and look forward to the redemption of these relationships which surely lies ahead.

  138. Even though I’m sure you already know because you have mothers of your own, us “big kids” still need you. I’ve been living on my own for a little over a year now and am going on 24. I cannot express how much I miss my mom every day. I miss the tiniest things even if it’s just knowing she’s in the other room. I’ve been lucky enough to have that kind of relationship with my mom; we’ve been each other’s “person” since I was a teenager. So though I’ve told this to my own mom, I want to thank all of you mothers too. We’ll always be your little girl/boy somewhere deep down :)

  139. Wow, I loved this blog. I get so wrapped up in meeting my kids immediate needs, that I often forget about their emotional needs. I cant tell you how many times I have turned down playing trains or cars with my little boy because I was fixing dinner or folding laundry. There will come a point where I will have plenty of time to do those things, and he wont want to play trains or cars with me. My toe-nails need some love too, but they are at the bottom of the list of things that need my love. Hang in there girl, enjoy the ride, because it is fast and intense, and over before you know it!

  140. I have 2 wonderful grown boys– we had such fun while they were growing up and yes– there are no sick days for mom! They are 34 and 29 and the oldest just had his first daughter– and “mom– I need you for a minute”……. It never really ends– even as adults– they look to mom for advice, help, and finding their way through new experiences in life. And I still have nights lying awake wondering if everything is OK for them….. are they happy– do they have the things they need. Once a mom– always a mom– they may no longer be in your home– but they are always in your head and your heart.

  141. I’ve never needed to read something so much. First time mommy of a 7 week old little boy, and a 28 year old man child. Through many sleepless nights I have to continually remind myself that this will pass to soon and I will miss it greatly. This made me smile.

  142. I have sat here reading your words as tears stream down my face. Oh, if I could turn back the clock and have more of those days and nights. The “I can’t wait til” days come way to soon and then you want the “someone needs you” days back. Enjoy these days while you can and don’t wish them away because you will miss them.

    Our son is 21 (working and going to college) and my “baby girl” is 18 and attending college 4 hours away. I have gone 4 weeks without seeing my baby and tonight she called and said “I miss my family” and “I can’t wait to come home”. I almost started to cry…I miss her SO much.

  143. Never forget how it feels to be ‘Mommy’. They may be grown now but reading this brings precious memories flooding back. Thank you for the reminder.

  144. I was an ‘older’ mother having tried for fifteen years to have a child. A beautiful daughter was followed by her baby brother after another wait of four and a half years. As they were growing I yearned for more babies but in those days age was against my pursuing the thought further. I had always imagined I would have at least four children. We learned to be content with our two wonderful kids. They were the joy of our lives. Now they are grown and each has two children, so in a way I have my four.
    I am an ‘older’ grandmother and am their caregiver when their parents work. I love them as I loved my own but it is a different kind of love that cannot be explained. As with my own I would move mountains for each one of them.
    I go through each day with them with their never ending needs, wants, and demands. I hold the thought, as I did when my own children were growing, that it won’t be long before they won’t need me anymore. So I am enjoying my second chance at being needed, and hope the days won’t fly by that lead all to quickly to that time in my life where all I will have are precious memories.
    The article is so true and poignant
    that I want to share it with my children so that they will not get so caught up in the hustle and bustle of life, to take time to savour the moments and make their own precious memories. Thank you for putting it so succinctly.

  145. I needed this too. I’m working on slowly weaning my younger daughter and she’s clingy and doesn’t want me to put her down or pick her up or hold her or leave her and it’s been wearing me down. I KNOW for certain that once they grow I will crave my girls’ neediness and their little bodies next to mine but so many days are just tough and I find myself hoping the neediness will let up just a little bit. I am squishier, more wrinkly, more tired, and worn out than I have ever been. But I know it’s all worth it and I wear it like a badge because I am also more loved than I have ever been in my life.

  146. My husband is deployed for 6 months and I have a newborn baby, 6 year old and 4 year old … I needed to read this post this morning. You have put into words all the feelings and thoughts I have had ever since he left (and before he left). They only have me right now and I have to “step up to the plate”. Thank you, thank you, thank you for this post!

  147. as a single mother to two daughters there was times that I too needed my mom. Now my daughters are mothers them selves. I take pride in the Women that they have become, and the loving mothers that they are. My mother is in needing of me now, and always said that the roles would reverse someday. They have, and times would be nice is she was still the strong woman that I new, and needed. But there are days, I remember and enjoyed that special time of someone small needing me, and their demands where some much simpler. Enjoy that time, as it is very short, and the best role any parent can have……..

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  149. I have never commented on a story before either, but I have to say as a mom of a 2,4,6 year old whom I’ve lost before due to homelessness, and gotten back, I have learned this fast, nothing can stop a mother but a mother, be there. No regrets. No easy way outs. Enjoy it everyday without complaint or screaming and yelling, remember how quickly they can grow and go…Lord that’s a picture clear in my mind to this day, the thought that I might lose them in the time that passes us so quickly scares me to death, so tonight and for always I’ll hold them tight and tell them they are my first and last love, my life wouldn’t be this wonderful without knowing the value and privelage of motherhood. Your inspiring and a beautiful writer! – M.A.D.

  150. I have 2 grown sons, and 1 grandson who is 3. I am expecting another grandson in 8 weeks. It is awesome being a nanna, but when my phone rings, and one of my sons says” mom I need…,…” I get overwhelmed with joy. After all doesn’t everyone want to feel needed? I enjoyed your story, and I have a new perspective on things. Thank you.

  151. Our children this year will be 21, 23, 25, 27, and 29.
    I used to say that 80% of the time I was in the bathroom the children needed me. The other 20% they needed me desperately.

  152. I am reading this at 4 in the morning because my little 4 year old is awake and we have to get up in a few short hours for church. There is nothing like being a mommy and this was a true blessing because I am a single mom and I treasure my time with my amazing daughter.

  153. I am in my early 40`s with a 4 year old, two year old twins and an unplanned 4th on the way. I am tired, cranky and fed up a lot of the time. Every day I wake and tell myself that today will be a better day. I will do less yelling. I will play more with my kids. I will just relax. Not be in such a hurry all the time. Enjoy my babies. Thank you for writing this. This will make me try harder tomorrow.

  154. Thank you for putting into words the million different emotions we as mommas feel and don’t know how to explain!!! I cried and related to your post :)

  155. One time in my life I had 9 children and was the mummy that somebody needed now at 55 years old and my children grown up I am no longer needed how I wish I could have it all back again so cherish it while you have it because its a sad lonely life when its gone

  156. When my husband and I got married our only agenda was to become parents. We wanted a flock of children. I found out I was not able to bare children. After the shock wore off and a lot of speaking to others we adopted our beautiful son Matthew from Korea. He is the greatest gift I’ve ever received. I too long for the days when he needed me. He is married now and they are expecting a little boy in April. I can’t wait for this little guy to get here so I can be his Grandma. Maybe just maybe my son will realize that he still needs me too!

  157. Beautiful….enjoy while you can. I am at the place where I would love to hear those words again. Boys are grown with families of their own just my husband and I again .

  158. I want so desperately to find joy being in a similar season right now, and maybe I am missing something but this isn’t precious. My health and happiness is important to the happiness and well being of my children, too, right?

    Because I haven’t slept in days and my four week old won’t stop crying and I have dreams of being all alone and sleeping through the night.

    I’ve often wondered if moms post these things to elevate their “job” when they lack a title from a corporation.

    I’m sure God doesn’t want me to suffer to feel important.

    • I sure hope I never suffer enough to become delusional and not also take care of my health and happiness:) I posted this thinking a few of my friends might relate, no big aspirations of elevating my “job”. My title right now is Mom. Which I find to be very important.

  159. My daughter left for college this year. I think that throughout our lives, we need to be “needed”. Now my time is going to be caring for my aging mother and volunteering. But, how I miss the days in the pick up line, making cupcakes and long, long talks with my precious child. I wish you all the joy that motherhood brings.

  160. Thank you! It was lovely to reminiece from having 5 needing me thru the past 48 yrs of my going on 70. LOL, sounds incredible looking back. Cherished memories to enfold me. The Loving Graces and Blessings continue with the Grands. Hang tough with Love “Mommies”, the Best is yet to come!

  161. Wow! So beautiful! I was there, but now in the next stage. Grandchildren are great! I pray never to be a burden and just wish all moms to be as happy and proud as I am of the outcome affer your job as mom is over.

  162. So very true. Life has a way of teaching us but most of the time it is after we are through the rough times that we realize how blessed we are.

  163. I thought my job of “Mommy” was done after raising two amazing kids of my own until I married a wonderful man with an adorable daughter. She was 2 when I first met her. Feisty and full of sass lol I had no idea I would become her full time teacher,hair washer and comber,cook, driver, Muffins with Mom partner,homework helper, shoulder to cry on, defender, councillor, confidante, support system, and ultimately friend. Soon she too will be off with college and her own life and I am great full I had a small part in her upbringing. God placed me where he needed me to have one more go at motherhood, because “Somebody needed Me”

  164. As a mother of three teenagers now, I can totally relate to this. I miss my “little ones” more and more each day as they get closer and closer to being adults ready to take on the world themselves.

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  166. The love comes through so clear! It is a hectic time but it is not a burden. I hear that in your words. And you are right, these days pass quickly and they linger long in your memory. You never forget the smell of that new baby or the quiet stillness of night and the nursery. When your teenager screams at you and slams the bedroom door, the love that bonded in babyhood sustains you. And it keeps you strong. Thankfully, the rewards of raising littles is greater than the sacrifice!

  167. As th mother of a just turning 13 year old and soon to be 11 year old, enjoy and revel in the quiet moments to draw your strength and relish holding your baby because the only time I get to hold them now is when they are sick…..lol….God bless and take care…

  168. I remember when my sons were very little. An older woman told me to enjoy them because the growing up years are the best of times. She said if she could do it all over again she would.She had a wishful nostalgic look on her face. She knew what I didn’t. At the time I had 2 little babies, I worked full time and I was exhausted. Fast forward 20 years and my babies are grown and she was right. If I could do it all over I would. Enjoy them now because these are truly the best of times!

      • So much better!!! I raised four children, ages 29,26,25 and 15, my oldest has a little girl and I cannot believe the sheer joy she brings to me!!!! Although I still have the 15 year old to keep me busy, I really miss the days when they were all little! It was exhausting, but sooooo much fun at the same time. I look at photos of those days and cannot believe how quickly the time passed…. and how much I miss those days! So to those who still have little ones running you ragged, hang in there and enjoy every minute of it! Its over way to quick. But if you are lucky enough to see grandchildren, it will be amazing!!

    • The author skips from babies to nursing home. I’m not in a nursing home yet but my chicks are all out in the world making me proud. I still get “I need you,” phone calls and text messages that just say, “Mom, I love you,” in the night. It’s all difficult and wonderful. Enjoy all the stages, when you can. I think this author is well on her way to giving her chicks some very wonderful memories.

      • so very true! there are many, many years between the babies and toddlers to nursing home! my out of town daughter has three little ones and calls me on a daily basis…face time is a regular occurrence. she still “needs” me. another one in her mid-twenties is still at home finishing schooling. she still “needs” me, too. i get phone calls and texts from her when we’re not together. my own mom has been gone for 18 years and there are many times i long for her advice, words of wisdom and comfort. this was a beautiful blog and stirred up many emotions.

  169. Thank you! In the 30 minutes we have been awake because my kids were awake we have had mess after mess and mom after mom and demand after demand. My mom saw this and shared it with me. I really needed this. Thank you for finding the time to write it. It is all perspective i am so grateful.

  170. I usually never comment on shared blog posts, but this one touched my heart so deeply I had to. My two year-old daughter is going through an “only wanting Mommy” phase and last night, after cleaning up her vomit, reading her twelve stories in a row, and forgetting to eat my own dinner, I longed for the pre-baby days of sleeping in on the weekends and actually finishing a movie on demand with my husband. Alas, I woke up this morning at 5am to a little voice calling “Mommy.” You captured the awe and struggles of motherhood with young children so beautifully. Thank you, I really needed to read something like this today :)

  171. Not long ago, I was speaking on the phone with my 36 year old son. We had been texting and I could tell something wasn’t quite right and so I just called him. We talked until I felt he was better. (Hard day) As the conversation was ending, I was prepared to tell him that I loved him and for him to reply as usual “love you, too”. Before I could say it, he said “I love you Mom”. Those babies of yours will always need you.

  172. Ahhh this is soo true…. but fear not even in their late teens early twenties they still need you. I am often woken up by one son or the other arriving home or disconnecting from the computer to a “Mom are you awake??” followed by a hug and an I love you. I can tell you there is no snot involved but I can’t vouch for a little ‘spit up’ occasionally as they stretch their wings and try new a few drinks. Love my boys!

  173. Your kids will always need you even as they get older. They need you in different ways but even today my teenager still needs me. This post was beautiful and very thought provoking. Thank you.

  174. Yes to ‘us’ and our joy of always being a Mommy. Thank you for the memories I have of when my sons were frolicking about the home. And, yes, they are grown men now with beautiful lives that fill my heart with happiness for their joy.

  175. This was such a beautifully written piece. It couldn’t explain all of us mommies out there any better. I have a 2 yr little guy and a 3yr old princess and all they want is Mommy 24/7 :) It is exhausting but at the times that you least expect they surprise you. My daughter has been sick with a stomach virus and I hadn’t slept much at all. Last night before bed she snuggled in to sleep with me held me tight and said “you are my best mama, I love you” and just like that she fell asleep and all I could do was smile , kiss her forehead and snuggle with her the whole night. God bless all the Mommas out there :)

  176. I swear to you I had my son a short time ago. He is now 18 years old. He tells me he will always need his mom, but it will never be in the same he did when he was a little man. Those days are so precious and the temptation is to hurry through everything and focus on feeling tired, burnt out, overwhelmed. But please, count your blessings, because they are many.

  177. My sons are 36 and 30 now. My memories of “someone needs you” are vivid and precious. I am a grandmother of 4 with grandchild number 5 on the way in September. I sleep through the night. I have time do pretty much what I want to accomplish in life. I am very much needed as a mother, mother-in-love, and Grandmomme (that is what I am called now.) Now, I am blessed to observe and celebrate the accomplishments of my sons, their wives, and my grandchildren. I am needed to pray for each of them. Because I do have a life to live and a purpose in this world, I am needed to be used to help and influence others, to share what I am doing in my life, and to share my life experiences with my children. I do not miss my little ones. Just have sweet memories of that precious time. I treasure the grown men they have become. It is an amazing thing to be in the birthing room and to see the love between a son and his wife, to see my son as he holds his newborn daughters and son, and to see my son raise and love his children. I would not go back to when they were little for anything.

    I pray for young mothers who give of themselves without restraint. It is a glorious and wonderful opportunity to be a mother.

    • What an excellent comment Sharon. I, too sence my greatest purpose is to pray for my 3 grown children, their spouses and my 8 grandchildren. …To keep them all lifted before Gods throne of grace and mercy each day and through every circumstance. I still cherish their calls–“pray for me mom”.

  178. Rest assured that each stage has it’s joys and makes you think it can’t possibly get any better…but it does. The pride you feel in your children is the most amazing thing ever. Knowing you’re doing something right and the kids you’re raising are becoming responsible, respectful, contributing members of society. There’s nothing like it. Enjoy them when they’re little for that time is precious but each year brings it’s own rewards. Mom, Mommy, Mama, Ma – whatever they call us, we’re privileged to have the title!

  179. Thanks thats what i neesed to hear i have 2 little girls and they are always stuck to my leg and i never get me time but now I’ve read this they can still hang on my leg

  180. I couldn’t have found this post at a more perfect time. It’s like Heaven knew I’d need it today…
    I’ve been sick with a stomach bug since Friday, and (obviously) mamas don’t get “sick days”, so I was feeling sorry for my exhausted self after a random 1:45am nursing session with my youngest. I had just finished reading your post when I heard a bizarre choking sound from the crib next to my bed. Yep, my daughter was sick too.
    Fast forward four hours and I’m back in the bathroom, this time holding my baby while I painfully used the facilities for the umpteenth time. Her lethargic eyes looked up at me as she tried to be sick, and everything I read came flooding back through those six month old baby blues: “I need you Mama. I need YOU.”
    Thank you so much for reaching out to this mamas heart.

  181. Hello from Texas, Mommy! This is a sweet post. As a mother to three boys/men and step-mom to another, I could feel everything you wrote. Be sure to take time for yourself now, even while they are tiny, to refill your bucket of mother-love. So critical! Additionally, don’t for a minute think that older kids won’t need you, too! False! They need us in different ways at each phase of the game and each one is fulfilling. Drink in each of their “I love you, Mommy” shout outs as well as other signs that your job is vital. It is not always easy, but certainly, the best arts and behavioral science project out there. All the best!!!

  182. Thank you for this article. I have 6 month old twins and a 2 year old so lots of sleepless nights, esp with my baby girl who has reflux issues and demands much of my time but it is all worth it.

  183. So true! Being at the later end of this experience, although I’m not yet in assisted living and have good and loving relationships with each of my four children, there is nothing I wouldn’t give to have just one more day when they were all with me; our homoe full of noise, laughter, friends, activity, questions, laundry. I enjoy my life now but…those were the happiest days of my life. To those of you in the thick of it…treasure every second, it is gone in the blink of an eye.

  184. My son is 23,so far he still needs me.I am the youngest sibling of 17.My mother died at 87 yrs young,and I can say with all honesty her kisses still made my hurts better and her arms still felt like home. They always will and I still remember that smile,that love she shared so freely. Mommy I still need you.

  185. I have been married for over 20 years to the most wonderful man. Unfortunately we were never blessed with children of our own no matter what we tried. We both came to the conclusion that God had other plans for us. We both had several brothers and sisters so children were always around us but it wasn’t the same. Until Dean. A nephew whose mom was single with a couple of other kids. We were blessed to be able to help in a way that we never saw coming. It was as close to being a mom as I’ll ever know. For the first three years of his life, his mom worked 2-3 jobs st a time so he spent almost all of his time at our house. I got to experience the middle of the night feedings, crying for no reason, no sleep til he slept. All of it. All of his “firsts”. There were times I wished I could change my name. My husband was wonderful with him. Thru no coaching of ours, he called me mama 2. His mother would laugh at this and would give me mother’s day cards…….then the day came when she met a good man, got on her feet and started to resent the bond that we had with her son. Finding fault with thing that we did, even though it didn’t matter when she needed us. He is no longer allowed to cone to our house. We rarely see him except at family get togethers that I am physically unable to attend due to health issues. She would rather forget that we were ever so involved at all. When we do see him his mom or “dad” are never far away. So my message is this: Mothers, enjoy every backbreaking, sleep depriving, hug giving, sloppy kiss getting moment you have . You will miss them when they are goner. Children, when you have children of you own, be sure to thank those who gave you what you are now getting.

  186. As I was reading this article, I was interrupted several times to stop a fight over a toy, get somebody a glass of juice, wipe somebody’s nose. My youngest daughter is 3.5 and my oldest will turn 7 this month. I miss their baby days, but every day is another adventure and I love to watch them grow up! I just dread when that day finally comes. This article just reminds me once again how fast life goes by. I love the quote “Enjoy the little things in life…for one day you’ll look back and realize they were the big things”.

  187. its funny, my kids are grown but I still remember those days! every stage brings its rewards but I love yous from a child whether chubby faced toddler or moody teen or even a grown adult is one of the best feelings in the world cherish these times the 3am alone times when its just you and your baby against the whole world , the times when the only word you hear is mommy mommy mommy over and over , soon there will be no more smudgy fingerprints on evrything, no more squishy hugs as you are trying to get something done and no more being the most important thing in a childs life sleep is overrated anyway!!

  188. As I sit here at 2 am with a toddler that has just started a habit of waking at 2am & screaming blue murder for 1/2 hour every night, I read your blog & it has given me the strength & patience to just be there for him. Thank you x

  189. Oh wow! You brought me to tears! I’m a single mother to a four year old and a five month old, both boys. We’ve been through a lot and my stress hasn’t been easy on ANY of us. And some days I just want to be any where else. But at the very same time, I never want these days to end! God bless you. I needed these words today!

  190. This really meant a lot to me. I have a severely handicapped daughter who is 16 and I get overwhelmed ALOT with “Can you suction me?”, “Can I get up in my wheelchair — Can I get back in the bed?”, “Don’t forget to feed me (eats through a g-tube)”, “Don’t forget to catheterize me?”, “My head/back/stomach hurt – can I have some mecicine?” It is all day everyday and overwhelming but now I read this and it made me think. Ginny shouldn’t be alive – 21 surgeries, 50 hospitalizations and 119 ER visits – but she is……….and, she needs me!! Thank you for make me think in a different persepective. My life would be so empty if I didn’t have her!

  191. OK I get the overall sentiment and appreciate it. But there are a couple things that REALLY disturb me. First, “Mommy means I neglect myself and put others before my needs, without a thought.” NO WAY. This is what is wrong with so many mothers today – we neglect ourselves to the point of driving us into depression. We CANNOT be good parents without taking care of ourselves. I’m not saying don’t put the kids’ needs first, but that doesn’t equate to neglecting yourself. PLEASE do not neglect yourself!! You won’t be worth anything for long, as a mom or a wife, if you do.

    Second, “I am sure there will come a day when no one needs me. My babies will all be long gone and consumed with their own lives. I may sit alone in some assisted living facility watching my body fade away. No one will need me then. I may even be a burden.” My goodness I hope I raise kids with more gratitude than that!! You’re expecting to be ignored in your old age and possibly forgotten? By these children you’re giving so much to? It makes me very concerned for your level of self-worth.

    Overall, while the sentiment of “it goes too quickly” is nice, I worry about the self-disrespect in this piece, a mother who gives it all away and does nothing for herself, doesn’t even hope that one day somebody might notice and be grateful for all her sacrifice. I realize of course that when they’re itty bitty you’re more “on call” – I’m in that very long stage of motherhood when they still really need you but you definitely can set boundaries. But even with newborns, you can escape – to the grocery store was always my favorite – even for an hour just to remember yourself (reading novels is another excellent escape and doesn’t require leaving the house).

    Thanks for the opportunity to respond. With depression in near-epic proportions among mothers, I just felt it was important to push back a little against the idea that we are to “neglect” ourselves.

    • Thank you for visitng my site! I appreciate your concern regarding my ability to take care of myself and my husband and I want to assure you that you have nothing to worry about:) I wrote this post thinking a few of my friends might read it and had no idea people all over the world would be falling upon my little story. Much of it is written as a metaphor or exageration of how crazy things are right now. If you don’t know me, I can see how much of what I said can be misconstrued. It basically focuses on the part of my life that involves the physical needs of raising tiny people I have plenty of time to exercise, eat healthy, perform yoga, even get a night off when my mom takes my newborn so I can sleep or have a date night with my husband. I need her very much! I do plenty for myself without feeling guilty, but always have my children’s needs first, and for that I do not apologize. My husband and I as a team put our children first. Thank you for your insight.

  192. I hope this article makes getting through the days and nights a little easier. It made me cry because I think it’s absolutely true. Love you!! Chrissy

  193. I just lost my mom at 37…I can tell you you never stop needing your “Mommy”. As you grow, you just need her in other ways. This was beautifully written and hit home with me in so many ways.

  194. This was an amazing memory, and an ever present reminder that I will always love and need my mom, and my boys will always need me. Thank you for memories, reminders and wishes.

  195. This is a beautiful reminder for those stressful days of young motherhood. I’m knee deep in it as well with a 7 month old and just turned 3. You got it wrong in one way though because children always need there moms. I just lost mine 3 weeks ago and miss her love and advice desperately already. No one can fill that void in a child’s life. It doesn’t matter how old we get. Don’t look at your “golden years” so bleakly.

  196. I sit here in tears, because I have been feeling sorry for myself lately. I have not had any time for myself, and I was beginning to feel angry that my husband gets all the time he needs for himself and all the sleep he wants. Your words spoke to me and reminded me that my tiring job is so important and wonderful. One day, I know I will miss my daughter’s sweet need to be with me all the time.

  197. This brought a little tear to my eye – Mommy mommy mommy and daddy daddy daddy – something that doesn’t last forever

  198. Sometimes in the midst of things, we need a reminder that ‘this too shall pass…’. but not meaning just the negative things. The positive things pass, too. Thank you for your beautifully worded message. It touched a lot of hearts.

  199. I was given great advice by my parenting mentor…always be the last one to let go of the hug with your children. To this day, when I hug my kids I always let them be the one to let go first. I miss those 4 am feedings. The quiet night where I can just be in their presence with nothing else to do.
    My best friend and greatest support is my mother. I will never stop needing her support and guidance.
    Lovely article! Thanks for reminding me.

  200. I love this article. My two boys are grown and I’m a grandmother to 4, almost 5 wonderful babies all 3 yrs. and under. They all make our life so blessed, they keep my husband and I very busy just helping their parents out!

  201. Beautiful article. Reminds me of you.
    I love to be needed by my girl. Maybe I need to be needed and that’s part of the reason I’m like that with her. I just love her so much.

    Jesica

  202. As a daughter I can tell you that you NEVER stop needing your Mommy. As a Mommy your kids never stop needing you. And if your lucky like me your kids say “I love you” everyday even when they are grown up with their own children. And when your grandchildren ask you if they can come visit and run to you with a hug so happy to see you your heart overflows with joy. When your adult children say Thank you for all you have done for them is very rewarding to know you have been the best Mommy you could be. You have all the right thoughts. Enjoy every moment with them even the tough ones because time goes by faster than you think. Thanks for sharing with us all..

  203. My baby girl is 31, and not only does she still need me, but she is now there when I need her. She has grown into an incredible young woman, wife, and mother. She and my wonderful son-in-law make me proud. I have been given the gift of 2 beautiful Grand babies, my little princesses. They need their mommy, my daughter, but every so often they need Nana too. I lost my own mother a year ago. In a way I lost her many years ago due to dementia. But even today, there are times I still need my mother.
    None-the-less, I recall how difficult and how wonderful it can be when your children are dependent upon you for everything. But time does pass faster than you realize. It is wonderful that the author was able to recognize that, and find a way to celebrate the challenge, and provide a new perspective that lots of young mothers needed to hear.
    Just remember, that there is a whole lot a life that occurs between that last bedside story, and the wheelchair in a nursing home. Once a mom, you will always be a mom, but you are many other things as well. So don’t forget to grow and nurture all that you are. Don’t let months go by without a good conversation with your partner. Mom’s and Dads are people too, with their own lives. The goal is to raise our children to be happy, strong, and self sufficient, and to manage to retain ourselves through all of that.

  204. There will never be a point in your life when your children never need you. My children will say “Mom, I hate to burden you with this, but you always give me something to think about without giving me the answer.”

  205. Thought of you while reading this morning. You are doing a great job raising those darling children who need you. Sometimes Only You! Love you Shelly! –Carrie

  206. Love this! But one opinion- mothers’ kisses always heal. Even if they are in a retirement community and sitting in a wheelchair. Mommies are always needed.

  207. Enjoy it. They grow up and have their own lives (if you did it right) and won’t seem to need you at all!

  208. This post has rejuvenated me in a way I never thought possible. I’m a new first time mommy of a 3 mth old beautiful girl. While I dearly love being a mother and nothing brings me greater joy then she does I was struggling the last few weeks with the responsibilities of motherhood. It’s def a life changer that sends a major shockwave through your life. The feeling of knowing I am needed 24/7 with no time for me was beggining to make me wonder how I could ever do this everyday. Reading this has made me see how even though mommyhood is extremely hard nothing compares to it. It now makes me appreciate every little detail in spite of the exhaustion and find joy and love in the fact she needs me and only me in a way only mothers can understand. I look forward to the many great years to come! Thank you

  209. As the tears flow, I think about the morning spent cleaning up the bathroom when both #1 and #2 missed the toilet. What a mess. But this is the product of the deteriorating mind of my husband. Your post is a gift of a new perspective that energizes and calms. “But, today I give myself away, and I am tired, and dirty and loved SO much.” Thank you!

  210. I was so fortunate in our circumstances to be a stay home dad and I was the mommy. I got to live so many of the things that most dad’s either don’t or won’t take the time to experience. Both of my girl’s are late teenagers now and they still come to me when they have a problem or an issue that “usually” only a mommy can solve. I also relish with great glee that no man will ever legitimately be able to say one of my girl’s “has daddy issues” that in itself makes the hours of walking a dark hall trying to soothe a colicky baby while singing along softly to the Carpenter’s greatest hits worth every second.

  211. I really needed this today. I have two boys one is 5 and the other is 10 months, work full time as a nurse. I have felt my patience getting very thin lately and feel like I have been taking it out on every one in the house. Reading this reminded me to enjoy this time I have with them right now. Sometimes through the everyday stresses I don’t cherish the little moments like I should. I also think sonetimes , ” when is it going to get easier?” Thank you again for posting this, really needed it today.

  212. No matter how old u always need your mommy I’m 62 and sometimes I need her but I have to talk to her in heaven when we meet again will tell them how much I’ve missed them

  213. Mine are 20, 16 and 14. My 20 year old Skypes from where she’s studying in Europe every few days with her own version of “mum, I need you” as she tells me about her challenges, heartaches and dreams. My 16 year old passes me in the hallway, looks down at me and rumbles in his gruff man-child voice, “mum, I love you.” My 14 year old will still come to me for a morning kiss on his cheek. I’m truly blessed to be a much needed mama to these 3 gifts from God. Sometimes I long for the feeling of rocking them in my arms, but I’m thankful for the many times I chose to put myself aside and love on them when they were little. I’m reaping the benefits already!

  214. Well said. I agree with the mamas that wrote you will always be needed. I still need my mom. I will always need her. It is exhausting hard work, but so well worth it. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

  215. When you have little ones-all you can do is live in the moment and have a sense of humor.. Only the very important things get done.I have 9 grown children and they received plenty of love and attention plus a lot of neighbor kids were there too! We all have such a good times together and now the Grand Kids! There are so many kids out there who just want someone to care and listen to them. Take the time ,kids don’t remember a neat house or need a lot of material things- they remember the time you spent with them and their father.

  216. This is beautiful, and so true. Thank you. Praying blessings on you and your husband and your little ones. Balancing a relationship with God, a marriage, and the many needs of little ones is a constant juggle! Be encouraged, though! The joy of the Lord is our strength!

  217. Hi Just yesterday and today I got phone calls from both my kids and this was like pleasure to my soul. To know they are fine and they think of me. God bless the Kids and the Mommies LOL

  218. Wow. Did I ever need to hear this today? I’m in the middle of it and it can be so hard and so exhausting. Just minutes before I read this, I said to my husband, ‘I clean the house every night and it is NEVER clean! The counter tops are always sticky and the wood floor is always dirty. The carpet is always covered with toys.’ It’s a good perspective when I look around and see a disaster with two little tornadoes in the middle of it all and are extremely needy.

  219. Oh, don’t worry! My brothers are 29 asks 27, married, and living in different states, but they need our mom a lot! It never ends! And, thankfully, they are still sweet boys.

  220. I had six children in ten years. Those were exhausting days with everyone under foot. Once my father said “These are the best days of you life.” At the time, I smiled weakly, but knew he spoke truth. Now I treasure each of those dear ones as grown-ups. They are wonderful! But I do so miss the busy days with them all around me.
    Keep giving and loving them. They are your greatest treasure! And your greatest reward!

  221. So beautiful, brought back memories of when my five were small and needy. Now I have lots of grands and great-grands. What a good job they are doing as parents. I still get a kiss and I love you when I see them or after a phone call. So proud of them all.

  222. I love this, it’s so sweet and it has made me realise that my daughter needs me too, even though it can be stressful.. She’s only 6 months. <3 thank you this blog. Xox.

  223. Beautifully written and so true- having two little ones is relentless! You never stop needing your mum though- mine sadly suddenly passed away nearly 2 years ago when my little boy was 8 weeks old and my daughter was 3. I’m 34 and will always miss her hugs, reassuring words and the sound of her voice at the end of the phone after a hard day- I’m certain that feeling will never go away. This post reminded me to cherish every minute of being with my babies and not hurry them along to an ‘easier’ stage- really lovely post thank you xx

  224. I love this. It’s very refreshing. I thank God for giving me d opportunity to pass through this experience. It’s very rewarding. It makes one to feel fulfilled. I give God d glory.

  225. This writing made me cry…literally. A mother of three girls, ages 30, 25, and 24, and one darling granddaughter 9 mos. old, all these words magically captured all the thoughts of an amazing mother. However, as you haven’t been to the next stage of life, I can offer you some insight.
    You will forever be needed as a Mom…because of the Mother you have been! They will often call you not only for advice but to share in every joy in their life. Whether it be what color to paint their living room or which pre-school to enroll their children….they still need you!
    My initial reaction reading this was sadness, as my oldest daughter and granddaughter just left from a weekend visit and they live 4 hours away. I always cry when they leave or I leave them…and I have felt the feelings of taking showers alone, coming home to a quiet house, and having all the “free time” I had longed for so many times…But my heart is full with the love, and gratefulness of the amazing job I did with my girls, and my heart overflows with joy watching them in their lives and being able to help them navigate the joys and stresses of motherhood!
    I am happy feeling my girls still love what I bring to their life….but content knowing what I have done will carry on long after I am gone.
    Love you with all my heart, Angie, Abbey, and Ali

  226. My sons are 38 and 39 years old. The time went by so quickly but due to circumstances my husband and I are now raising our granddaughter who is almost 4. As hard as it was adjusting over the past three years, the time with her seems so precious and all the boo boo’s, runny noses and temper tantrums mean nothing when you see the unconditional love that they give and the complete trust that they have in you. All the love my sons and I share has never went away, but they say with age comes wisdom and you start to appreciate all things in life. Time passes so quickly so we learn to savor each day whether it’s good or bad. Also, remember, with God all things are possible. Believe and he will never give you more than you can handle.

  227. So true and so sweet! And yet… I have to disagree with your suggestion that we can not (and the implication that we SHOULD not) take breaks. True, no one can ever actually take mama’s place; but that doesn’t mean we can’t clock out for an hour or two to recharge our own batteries, or have our kids wait a momwnt while we nourish our OWN bodies with an actual meal. 😉

    Burn-out, fatigue and emotional exhaustion are the inevitable result when we fail to meet our own needs. I learned this the hard way when I developed PPD when my third (also a girl after two boys!) was nine months old (her brothers were three and five). For five years I had been putting my kids’ needs (and wants) first, while neglecting my own, and it finally caught up to me. As much as we like to think of ourselves as infinite sources of love, energy and nurturing, we are not. We have limited resources that need to be replenished. Mommies have needs too, and that’s nothing to feel guilty about! 😉

    • I certainly do not imply we should not take breaks!!! Good golly what would I do?! I have to get out to the mall or a local watering hole with my husband! And although my meals may not always be completely wholesome, I can assure you I never miss one:)

  228. So I read your post my friend shared on Facebook as I had a minute waiting for church to start. I had dropped my girls at their classrooms and sat waiting for my husband to come join me and found myself reading your post. Let me tell you…along with all the others who have already said it…I needed that too! I had found myself beginning to hey frustrated at some of the “mommy I need you’s” lately and it made me take a step back, take a breath, and start over. The paragraph about being old scared the rats out of me and I realize now more than ever that I DO cherish all those moments…all the moments that remind me of the sign I still want for my wall “Excuse the Mess, We’re Making Memories” I love the part that it’s a duty and honor to be their mommy. May I continually remember that! Thank YOU for sharing your thoughts! Wow, now I feel like I’ve written a post instead of a comment! Oh, and by the way your post also gave me a good sniffly cry sitting right there in the pew this morning! But that’s okay!!

  229. This is the most beautifully portrayed story of our lives! I have raised three wonderful children, two sons and a daughter 39, 37 and 27. I have enjoyed every minute of motherhood and looking back at the years passed I praise the Lord for the strength and wisdom. Our children are successful in life today and some already parents themselves (we have 6 grandchildren) and it makes me happy to hear how grateful they are for the best childhood they were able to have. I hardly can wait to see them again!

  230. Having a mom is the most wonderful thing in the world. Mom is always there for me when I need her the most, fed me milk, changed my diaper, washed my clothes…etc. I will be there and do the same for her when she needs me. When she goes on diaper, I will changed hers, when she twists and turns at night, I will be there patting her back. When she has a nightmare, I will be there holding her hand. When she can no longer hold a spoon, I will feed her. Thank you all the moms in the world. You guys did awesome!

  231. It is exhausting being needed all the time. I’ve got three little boys ages 4,2 and 2 months, and I am needed constantly. My two month old is waking at night to eat every hour and a half, my two year old has been having nightmares, and my four year old just thinks it’s a good idea to climb in bed with me and kick and poke, and not let me have any sleep at all. During the day, they’re just as demanding, and I feel like I haven’t gotten any sleep at all in two months. It also doesn’t help that my husband has been out if town for the last six weeks, so I’m doing this solo. Just when I think I’m at my breaking point and I’m just about to my breaking point, I find gems, such as this blog that will keep me going for one more day. Thank you.

    • yes, I agree…..may I add something here, I lost my oldest son when he was 30…..not a lad BUT…..I am a nurse and awhile back, in my waiting room a 3 yo little girl wanted her momma to read to her while they waited for the DR….mom said….I’m busy reading a magazine….my heart broke, children aren’t always promised for forever, how I hope some day that mom doesn’t wish she woulda read to her daughter that day….

  232. How do you read this with out tears in your eyes and all the comments are also tear jerkers. We have four wonderful daughters who are now grown into lovely adults with children of their own and grandchildren. Still love talking to them every day and know that we are still important in their lives.

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  234. Wonderful perspective and so true. I had four children in eight years and life was very busy and sometimes overwhelming. They are all grown and married and I have seven grandchildren. The time flew very quickly! You are so right to appreciate this time even though it is so challenging. Thanks for reminding and encouraging other moms in this stage of life!

  235. Motherhood is such a wonderful thing. You don’t know it till you experience it yourself. It grows all the time. Amazing! Cheers to all Mothers of this earth!

  236. What a beautiful story I am the Mother of triplet sons and what I would give to have them little again They are grown now and I miss those days when they were young and needed me more

  237. Beautifully told description of a loving mother. Treasure those moments for they swiftly fade with the passing years. But the memories are imprinted on our hearts.

  238. As a dad, just to chuck one of my fav moments in. Waking my youngest of 3, 5 years old, for a 4am toilet trip whenever I have him, the poor monster is half asleep still and hasn’t got a clue whats going on, but as he settles back down he always volunteers a “luv you Daddy”, just as he goes back off to sleep, something I will never forget :). Moments to cherish indeed.

  239. Beautiful sentiments for mommy’s in all stages of life. Brought tears to my eyes, thinking of my mom (in her 80’s), my daughter and her little girl.

  240. Being a childless woman, having had a now regretted abortion in my early twenties. Four years of marriage paired with four years of monthly tears. How I wish somebody needed me. :(

    • Oh Selina, I will say a prayer for you. You may feel no one needs you today, but someone has before and someone will again. You will hold your baby one day when you get to Heaven. It will forgive you just as God has and love you.

      • Adoption is always an option there are thousands of children that are motherless and NEED a mommy don’t opt out and feel useless cause you can’t create your own child with your womb reach out and love an orphan I have 3 beautiful lil sisters (8,6 1/2, & 4) that I couldn’t imagine life without that are not of my blood and I can tell you now that my mother and father are just as happy as I am to have them in our lives

    • Selina, hold fast to your hope. I had an abortion at 24 and I have regretted it everyday. I was certain that God would Never bless me it a child. I became pregnant in 2012 and we lost Kalea at 26 week’s. I was inconsolable for the longest. But behind that dark cloud was a silver lining. Her name is Eulia. My miracle, and my second chance. You will be in my prayers. Remember this if nothing else sometimes we must be broken in order to be repaired.

  241. This was a wonderful story about your life thanks for sharing. It certainly touched my heart. I never had children of my own but have helped raise 3. And I’m thankful for them. Now most have pasted on to heaven . I have my daddy here with me and I will be here for him like he did for me. I bath him, cook for him, dress him , and I love him so much. I notice he don’t remember things like he use to. But I thank God for the 71 years I’ve got to spend with him so far. It made me think. I’m doing what the Lord wanted me to. I’m doing what I LOVE…….

  242. This was beautifully written and I’m sitting here with tears streaming down my face because it helped me to remember that every single moment with my beautiful babies are so precious. Yes, I keep a journal of all their cute sayings, achievements and special moments. And yes I take thousands of photos and videos each year. But I need to be more patient, work less, clean less, and not worry about stuff so much because one day they will not want to snuggle with me, have me read to them, sneak into my bed at 3am, hold my hand for no reason at all, or come up to me and say, “Mama, I want to whisper a secret in your ear!” and what they whisper is “I love you Mama” and then run through the house and continue playing. I have a 5 yr old, 3 yr old and 9 month old and I thank you for reminding me that one day they won’t need me, so I can soak up every precious moment with them NOW, while they do still need me. Aloha.

  243. Beautifully written article, it made me cry like a baby.Allow me to give another perspective Im an adopted child and I was raised by loving parents.My dad died suddenly in 1999 and I still miss him. In 2004 my mom had a stroke that left her unable to care for herself so for the next 9 years I became her caregiver,trying my best to take care care of her as she had always done for me,sometimes it was trying since Im not a parent myself,on July 29,2013 my mom passed and this 50 year old man misses her and sometimes i still cry and say softly ‘mommy I need you” Rest in Gods embrace beloved parents.

  244. I had 4 boys and I remember trying to take a bath with one in the tub with me, one taking his clothes off to get in the tub with me, one on the toilet, and one in the doorway talking to me and now they are all grown with children of their own and I would give anything for that time all over again!!! I remember someone telling me I would cry when the last one went to school and I laughed and believe me I cheered when I took last one in the door. Then when we went to a craft fair and I asked my youngest what he wanted me to help him with and he looked at me and said”I don’t need you to help me Mom” I cried I had just lost my baby!! So please cherish the time they are little because it really goes by FAST!!

  245. Awesome post – from a Dad of three where one is teething and one had a water infection last week – 45 mins of sleep a night is no joke but you have hit the nail RIGHT on the head :) thank you.

  246. This is so true. All young Mommies savor these moments….. They are the best moments of your life and gone way too soon. The best words you will ever hear “mommy somebody needs you.”

  247. My Mom is 86. She lives with my sister at this time (we all have had her living with us or us living with her, for a very long time). We still need her and love her. So to all of the older mom’s out there, you’re still needed and loved by your kids. Even if it’s to give them a kiss or hug, and say you love them

  248. To all the Mommies who need a little break – please ask a friend, neighbor, etc for a little help. It will bless them as much as it does you – they may need someone to “need” them!

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  250. This was an awesome post. Yes, I have been there, done that and have the spit up shirt to prove it. But now those three little curly haired boys are grown and have families of their own. Where DID the time go? Not being able to live close to them for the last 12 years, it was very hard to only hear their voices on the phone. A lot of the calls start with, “Mom I need …. advice, a recipe of that casserole or what did you do when one of us was sick?” So, yes, they do need you always and it does feel great, even though I think and hope they call just to hear my voice too. The phone calls always end with “I love you,” the most important part, because it could be a long time before we see each other. A-a-and, they will always be your babies no matter how big and mature they get.

    • Rose, as a daughter living a few hours from her parents I promise you your boys are also calling just to hear your voice. I call my parents for advice or help all the time, but really all I want is just to make that connection and talk to them. There is nothing like hearing your mother’s voice on the other end of the phone!

  251. This was an awesome article. I have three grown children and I truly cherished every moment with them. I still do. I loved summer with them and holidays and snow days and any day that we were together. I remember some moms saying they couldn’t wait for school to start again after summer break or Christmas break. I was not one of them. I much preferred our days together. Now I have 8 grandchildren and I never dreamed how wonderful that would be. I love the time I spend with them and I am so blessed that they all live close by. I have had physical issues with cancer and back surgery and through it all, my kids were there for me. Cherish the moments. They pass all too quickly. Never miss a chance to say, “I love you.”

    Thank you for sharing this. It was very heartwarming.

  252. Oh dear, I needed a serious Kleenex warning at the beginning of this post! This is so beautiful, thank you for giving me much medication. (From a mother of children 7, 5, 3, and 1.)

  253. Thank you sharing your sweet words. Very refreshing an so true. I am living all of it right now. Stay at home withy twins who are 2 an little girl who is one, along with a 6 yr. I seriously never sit down an if I do at least one child is on my lap. Showering an using the bathroom seem to be a family event. Although some days are rough, I feel extremely blessed an love my family! So keep up all the hard work moms an dads too!!!

  254. That’s not true. My mom’s arms were always home. Even as an adult. Even as we sat together at an “assisted living (or in our case -dying) facility.” The way you need your mom may change. But you don’t stop needing her.

  255. Sitting here with tears streaming down my face, I’m truly thankful that I was able to read this. Not only is it beautifully written, but it is so true. I have always thought that my kids have been my greatest achievement in life and I am so thankful that God has entrusted me to be their mother. I just bought my 17-year-old his first car, and I was just thinking yesterday that “I’m losing my baby and he’s becoming a young man”. I’m so thankful that I still have a mother to call, and I pray my kids feel the same way about me when they get older. We all need somebody!

  256. I have to say that this made me absolutely bawl. I just had my son 5 days ago and I have a 4 yr old daughter. I was also informed that I will not be able to have anymore children. Being home after a csection and a spinal head ache stinks but I still have to be mommy. I have been finding myself here thinking of “one day” when my head wont hurt so I can enjoy my children more and after reading this I realize that one day even a week from now my baby wont be less than a week old and my daughter (who for the first time today drew pics of me and her and they were really good) wont be experiencing her new brother or taking a nap with me in the chair while her brother sleeps in his vibraty chair. Thank you for this blog. Now I have to go. Somebody is awake and needs me. PS I wanna go see my mom and grandma!!

  257. I loved this post! It rings so true, things can be so overwhelming and busy with little ones but the time slips by too fast. And their sweet hugs and words make everything worth it.

  258. I absolutely loved this story. My husband and I raised 11 children. (I used to tell people that I had from one to four kids, at home, not in school for 29 years). It was so hard at times, but oh, those memories! No one can take them away. Now, our oldest son had a massive stroke, and now he needs me. God has a plan.

  259. Don’t forget that your husband needs you too! Even when those kiddos grow up, he will still need you. You can fill reach others arms and laugh together about all the good and bad days of being parents. Taking care of your relationship with him will make such an amazing foundation of stability for your kids!

  260. no matter how old you get you will always need your mother. my mother live with us she is 85 years old and i enjoy every day that I have her in my life. She is losing some of her memory but she is still the mother that I have always known. I am a mother of three with three grandchildren and two great grandchildren and i enjoy when they come to visit. If they could stay longer than a couple of hours or days that would be heaven but i know that they have busy lives and just hearing them on the phone is a privilege and a show of how much they love me even if i am not with them in their homes.

  261. Reblogged this on A Thinking Mom and commented:
    Love this article written by another blogger! I too, need to remind myself that: “I have to stop dreaming of “one day” when things will be easier. Because, the truth is, it may get easier, but it will never be better than today…”One day” I will get myself back. But, today I give myself away, and I am tired, and dirty and loved SO much…”

  262. They still need you when they are grown…it’s just a different need. “Mom, how do you pick a moving company?” “Mom, my car only drives in reverse. What do I do now?” “Mom, I broke my foot falling down the stairs.” “Mom, the baby never sleeps. What can I do?” But those precious baby days…wonderful! Great essay.

  263. What a beautiful piece of writing! I am in tears thinking of the busy days we, as mommies to toddlers and an infant, endure. At the same time, those words ‘I love you’ can wipe any problem away. Thank you!

  264. Love what you wrote. I was once a manager at Red Fire Grill. Married my liquor rep. We have a 3 year old son and 15 month old twin boys. I would never trade that for the words of I love you mommy. My life is messy my house is not always clean but these boys and my husband make my heart complete.

  265. This was EXACTLY what I needed to hear…to be reminded of. It is so exhausting. I feel like I’m in a tug of war. My selfishness and exhaustion vs. my over abundance of love and their tender little hearts. I have (2) 2 year olds, a 4 yr old and six year old. My husband is wonderful and very hands on…such a blessing…but is gone much of the time. He is in the middle of his dissertation. Work during the day, come home for an hour or two, go back to his office or our home office and write. Somedays I feel like all I do is try to keep my fuse from igniting, Bottom line is, it’s not them, it’s me. The sooner that I can accept this stage of life and stop fighting it, the sooner I will have peace and joy. We have a wonderful church family and good friends, but our relationships have really changed. Most of our friends are not in the middle of a doctorate and only have one or two kids. We live disciplined lives, send our kids to a private school and our social life consists of a redbox movie and popcorn in our sweat pants once a month. But we made our choices, we are happy with them and we need to stop living in survival mode, striving for “one day” and missing out on the blessings of now. Thanks for your honesty…loving getting aquatinted with your blog :).

    • Press on! You are not missing out, you are fleshing life with kids. My biggest recommendation is to carve out time for you hubs, the whole family benefits. Life is intense but, You will survive! Motherhood is lovely and painful all at the same time – so says a mother of 5 (who were just a few years ago ages 6,4,1 and twins)

  266. Hi there…lovely post..i am myself a mother of a toddler and a baby..i can so relate to this..made me teary..thanks for penning this.

  267. This is so beautiful. The child coming into your room while you hold your breath in fear and he says I love you-, that is such a perfect example. I and probably all mothers can relate, but I hope many start to think of motherhood and its difficulties in this way. Precious and so incredibly fleeting. I have five and by now i realize its all gonna be over in a snap.
    Thanks for this. Keep cherishing the love! And I think your kids will always need you. I hope they show it. :)

  268. Oh my, how I needed this! Those are just the words I needed to hear!! Sometimes it’s hard to remember that it can be really nice to be needed!!

    • One day when I commented to my mother how quickly my children were growing up, she replied “You wouldn’t like it if they didn’t” the implication being there would something amiss with them if they remained as babies. It really made me think and be thankful that they were growing up.

  269. I am sitting here in tears….Thank you for placing this blog .It is beautifully written and very true. I have 2 boys all grown up & living away so I don’t get to see them often. I miss them so much…I need them so much especially since I am alone. I know they need me too! We all need somebody!!!

  270. Being a mom is great and all but where is the DAD? Mom needs a break sometimes too & dad should be doing half the work too. Why is it always mommy who has to do everything. Women stand up & make your man help 50/50. Next time the kids say “Mommy I need something” tell them to go ask their father..lol

    • Why is it always Mommy? Well, men can’t breastfeed, for starters. Second, if mom is home with babies and toddlers, someone has to be at work making the money. That IS 50/50. Most dads I know work all day and are happy to come home, take over with the kids, help with bath and bedtime, and perhaps do the dishes. But good luck sending dad in to an infant who needs to nurse at 4 am with no boobs 😉 Don’t short change dads, please.

      • Couldn’t do it without my husband, or my dad! There will be many posts to come related to the role of dads, grandads, and other relatives. It takes a village, right?!

    • Seriously?!?!
      Dad is at work, maybe even working multiple jobs, so that mom can stay home (hopefully) to love and raise beautiful children.
      When daddy comes home of course he shares in the load.
      But don’t tell moms to stand up for themselves… As if being a mom is a lower position…
      50/50…
      I’m 50% homemaker/wife
      50% mommy
      My husband is 50% incredibly hard worker with multiple jobs so I can stay home with our triplets
      50% phenominal dad and husband

      That’s called marriage and parenting…

    • I think you’re missing the point here….
      Women are natural nurturers. A woman’s body forms that baby deep inside of her and nourishes it in its early stages. We are engineered to be the main caregiver. It’s not about equal rights or the daddy ‘stepping up’ to do his part. They have different, equally important, roles.
      For example, we have three children under 6 and one on the way. My husband works full time providing for all of us by putting a roof over our heads and food for the table. It’s hard, thankless work what he does and I’d be a thoughtless wife if I asked him to put in 50% into parenting on top of what he does for us already.
      It’d be terribly unfair to him to have to come home at the end of a long work day only to change nappies and pick up after the kids. I may be exhausted but he’s exhausted too.
      The difference is women are multitaskers. We can be concentrating on dinner, changing nappies and wiping little noses whilst planning tomorrow’s activities. Men tend to keep their minds on one task at a time and do that task well.
      Kids need their mothers in a very different way than they need their fathers. This blog post was focused on the way little ones need their mothers and how wonderful that can be. :-)

    • This was not about the dads! I for one had a husband that was awesome about getting up in the middle of the night to feed the babies. He changed many diapers, and assisted. all the time. But still it is Mom that is there when the dad isn’t, the one that holds and kisses away the owies. And at times you do need at bit of affirmation. That is what this is.

  271. well,you had your mother crying/it was like my life story up to the nursing home/how true it is!!!ALLof a sudden no one has time for us old timers who were always there when somebody needed us!!!!I i think the winter is getting me depressed/ stuck inside too long.,,,,,,,,!!! …………

  272. I needed this, as I sit here holding my daughter thinking of all the things I need to do and hear the whimper of my 3 yr old son I know they can wait. Because your words are so very true “they need me”
    thank you for reminding me this is the most important job I will ever have!!

  273. Reblogged this on jumpdancelove and commented:
    There are so many days, where I think, “maybe I’d enjoy this (the late night wake-ups, the constant need to be held/entertained/fed/snuggled/what have you) more, if I worked and didn’t spend all day with him.” But really, the way S’s eyes light up with every new discovery just cannot be beat. The way he smiles at me just because he feels like it makes my heart damn near explode.
    P has always preached that if you can’t change your circumstances, you can change your attitude, that you can choose to be happy. Lately, I’ve been working hard to do just that. Yes, I can go back to school, I can work, I can ask P to leave the Army, I can do all sorts of things to change my circumstances, but I cannot change the fact that my child needs and wants me. That’s probably a good thing. Hard as this year spending almost every moment with our baby has been, it has been so incredibly rewarding as well.

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  275. Well,I had a good cry—it could be our life story(any mother) and we do need to learn how to live out our golden YEARS when we feel that we’re no longer needed!!!!There’s too much cabin fever & depression due to over a month of snow!!!! I couldn’t survive without my children.

  276. I can’t even explain how true this is as I’m hysterically crying over under my glasses and onto my iPad. As I sit in a hospital bed and read this, I know how much I want to hear those words so badly right now. I was diagnosed with something nonsense and need intervenes medication for days… Needless to say I would rather be home being attacked by the toddler to play and cuddling my baby boy right now than layer up by myself. I live for those boys so much I think this will be the first night ever spent away from them both, it’s crazy but true, and I’m dying.

    • Christine, Dear. You are/were in a hospital bed doing things to extend your “warranty” and your wee ones will cry out to you, “MOMMY! I love you” and hearts will melt, memories etch and each moment becomes a lifetime. Seek them only with hours to live.you are joyously needed and gratefully adored.
      You are living.
      Peace to you. Peace..

  277. I have a newborn baby girl and two older boys. This could totally be my life. I boo-hood through it. Thank you!

  278. Thank you SO much for this article. I think it is perfection. I have three little ones and this really hit home for me today. I will print this out and re-read it many times. I have been struggling for the past few months with the constant demands of mother hood and I have been praying for inspiration. Thank you for answering my lprayers.

  279. Here in bed . Husband asleep next to me. My 3 , 6 ,17 boys in bed. Somehow the alarm clock in the master bedroom going off now at 11pm. Wondering why. Thinking of work next week. Muliti tasking. Watching oscars ( which is ironic ) considering I don’t go to the movies and looking at facebook and coming upon this amazing yet so true to my own senero blog. I found myself realizing that God wants me to be exactly where i am . At home with my boys. I struggled professional career vs mom. I have the most rewarding, amazing , and No retirement in sight job ( that sound like I went for an interview) I should say what God wanted Me to become. A MOM. Every time your child calls out Mom, mommy, ma….. Remember that you are wanted and needed . And in that moment you are LOVED unconditionally.

  280. Very good just what I needed to read. I have a very demanding 2 yr old who wants that new paw patrol and a clingly 7 month old but one day they wount need me but today they do so thats all that matters.

  281. This made me cry! I only have one baby so far,14 months old, and all day long its mama mama mama…. feels good to know other mamas feel frustrated and exhausted …. I don’t want my baby girl to grow up but she will and I hope and pray she needs me as much then as she does now…. thanks for writing this and reminding us all what it is to be mom!

  282. You’ve made the husband of a stay-at-home mother and father to two little boys cry like a baby. Fathers should cherish every moment too. This is perfect.

  283. I lost my youngest son almost 3 years ago when he was 22,so thankful for those 22 years and so thankful that we always told each other that we loved each other,every day.

  284. So beautiful, I loved every word of this post. Such a good reminder that being needed is hard but rewarding and fleeting. Sure, they will always “need” us, but not like they do right now, and never again with they love us so unconditionally and put us on such high pedestals. Love, love love this. Thank you.

  285. I am on the other side of the “Somebody needs you” stage of life and it is lonely. But every now and then someone calls and asks for advice. I know it’s hard, but don’t blink, because they do grow up too fast.

  286. This is just beautiful! As a new blogger and a mom who is trying to decide whether or not she is finished having children, thank you (or, a sarcastic “thanks a lot” on that second part). ha. I’m in tears and rethinking what I thought was my final decision. But truly, I appreciate the reminder to take in each and every need as a blessing in the now. Bless you, momma!

  287. I can so relate to this and the tears are flowing down my face. I have a 3 year old little boy with the sweetest voice and a 4 month old little girl. Yes I am also tired and yes they do need me. My husband is a huge help but they still need their mommy. I think about those days where I won’t be needed as much and try to remind myself when I’m in the thick of it to relish that moment. Some days are hard…others easy. But when I go to sleep at night and he is curled up next to me and I hear her breathing on the baby monitor, I can rest easy that I am truly loved and needed as well.

  288. I enjoyed this blog very much. I did not blink when my children were growing up. I enjoyed every stage. I SOMETIMES miss them being little, but I am enjoying this stage of my life. I love sleeping beside the snoring husband, being the one that gets to hold his hand in public. I also enjoy visits from my children and seeing what my love brought to their life as adults. Thank you for the reminder of the chaos, love and opportunity I have as a mom. Being a mommy was and is my biggest accomplishment. ………………..

  289. Before reading this, I’d just commented to my husband about our oldest boy – who had been asking me why I’d eaten all his fish-fingers (I hadn’t BTW) – , ‘…That child is going to be the death of me!’, to which he grinned and replied, ‘Yep, and the other two, too…’ :)

    Glad I read your post; I sometimes sigh with exhaustion because three boys, three yrs and under are certainly a good way to be kept busy, but I’m so glad they’re ours – I revel in the fact that the oldest runs up to us both randomly and says, ‘Mamma/Dadda, I LOVE you!/ I LOVE you SOOO much!’ and that the middle one (who can’t yet say the words) points to his own chest and makes very insistent noises until you acknowledge that he loves you too, and when you do acknowledge this, he gives you the biggest grin, firmly nods his head and says, ‘Yes!’ 😀

    I blink to take a screenshot of each of those moments in my heart and keep them so that I can take them out of whenever I’ve maybe had a harder day and later, when they’ve grown up and aren’t around us 24/7.

    Thanks for the reminder to savour being the person that these little boys need the most in the world at the moment, and to do my best to make their days as full of fun and love as possible. :)

    Noelle x

  290. I am a widowed mother of 4 children…a 20 year old son who is living on his own for the first time, an 18 year old son who is a freshman at a college in another state, a 15 year old son who will be getting his driving learners permit in a month, and a soon to be 14 year old daughter who is always on the go. This blog had me thinking back to the days when I had 3 young boys and a premature newborn daughter at home. I can recall many times Trying to sneak off so I could cry because I was so overwhelmed with all the demands.”Mom, play this game with me”, “Mommy, can you fix my toy?”, “Momma, please out Blues Clues on!”, “Mommy, can you get the brush out of Barbies hair?”…and so on and so on and so on. I often wondered when the days of raising 4 kids would get easier. Well, those easier days are slowly creeping up on me and I’d give ANYTHING to have those overwhelming days back. As I watch all the changes taking place with my children I am reminded of the days when they were younger and my eyes fill with tears. I think of blankies and stuffed toys and Blues Clues and a little girl that did everything that mommy did. But what I remember the most are each of their tiny arms hugging any part of my body, at any given time of the day and saying “Mommy, I love you!”. Who would think that those 3 little words could mean so much?

  291. This made my heart flutter It brought back all the memories that I had with my 6 children. I had a girl first and she was my doll giving her all the love I could give til she became a sister at 13 months when my son came along and we were a perfect family of four. All of the times you get up with them night and day just fade away. I think it was the same day my husband said we have a girl and boy and that some how I knew we were going to have another one.
    So we thought, but I didn’t get the rest that I thought I was going to get because we had Twins and I was really over whelmed, but you get your act-together and just do what God as given you, a large family over night so it seemed. It was hectic at first but you go along-with your-system and love every minute of it because you love them. A perfect family,
    of 3 girls and 1boy. So we thought, we took a vacation to Florida and had a wonderful time with them.. and relaxed for a while. 7 years , The next year we had triplets, and lost one after 2 days, my smallest one, my heart broke, she was so beautiful and to think she had to die. we all became closer and had a wonderful time together. I was home with them and loved being with them.
    We had a wonderful time with them growing up. Now they have children and some of them have children All of them makes me a MOM, MOMMOM, GGMOM, and GGMOMMOM. I love all my names. You must have Patience, Love and Gratitude to raise a Family. also a Tender Heart.

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  293. Thank you! This is right on…..I have 5 living children, 12, 10, 8, just-turned-7, and 3 1/2. I have been there! And it is likely that we will not have more, so now that my youngest is approaching 4, I miss those baby days. My children still need me, but the days of toddler demands are almost gone, and I find myself sad about it. Enjoy it all while you can!

  294. Mine still say they need me, even one at 45 calls to “check in”, I actually know where she is and that she is busy being “needed” by two sons, one daughter, one daughter in law and best of all one two year old grandson. The other 44 year old daughter would say”ditto” of her four daughters, one son and three grands.

  295. So beautifully written. And so true. As a Mom of one and another on the way, being needed is something important that is easy to forget. I still need my mommy sometimes, like when I was ridiculously ill a few weeks ago. I needed her to take care of me! Nobody else could do it right (in my mind).
    As much as being needed, being wanted is high on the list too. One of my daughter’s favorite things to say is “mommy, I want you.” It basically means that she wants a hug, or a snuggle, or a moment of my undivided attention. Doesn’t take much, and I certainly should be more responsive to being wanted. She won’t always want me like this.

  296. So beautifully written. And so true. As a Mom of one and another on the way, being needed is something important that is easy to forget. I still need my mommy sometimes, like when I was ridiculously ill a few weeks ago. I needed her to take care of me! Nobody else could do it right (in my mind).
    As much as being needed, being wanted is high on the list too. One of my daughter’s favorite things to say is “mommy, I want you.” It basically means that she wants a hug, or a snuggle, or a moment of my undivided attention. Doesn’t take much, and I certainly should be more responsive to being wanted. She won’t always want me like this.

  297. I have a son who is about to leave for college. Soon, he won’t need me. But I am grateful for every time that he knew that when he needed me, I was there.

  298. Written so well & so true. Beautiful . . . I miss those mommy nites. I may not be needed anymore, but memories & the love will always be there.

  299. Thanks for reminding me, us all of the most precious duty that we are given. Yes, at times, my steam are off, I’d scream and shout (now I feel really guilty) at my 35months son. But he still can be his sweetest and most behaved little boy which I knew I’d soon miss. In a blink of an eye, he grew up fast.
    And yes, he does ‘mummy, sister needs you’ too.. :)

  300. Truly moving and humbling words. I have bookmarked this specific article and will reread it when my patience is running low. The best and most rewarding job is being a mother; I always cherished the middle of the night feedings because these moments truly are fleeting. Every moment with our children is only a blink in time and I love that you encourage other parents to stop and enjoy the little moments that make our lifetimes magical. Beautiful and eloquent. Thank you for the gift.

  301. Reblogged this on Live it fresh with Laura and commented:
    Wow, I couldn’t have said this better. I can absolutely relate to this post. Being a mommy is absolutely all consuming and exhausting, but there is nothing better than holding your sweet child and knowing that you are the one person in the world that can comfort and love them the way you do. Each moment is a precious gift from the Lord above to be treasured.

  302. Someday has come for many of us; my baby is 6 foot 3, and hsi feet are enormous. All those times he kicked my ribs I swore he’d kick me open, and for good reason. His sisters, even older — no longer really need me, though there are times when I do come in handy. I can say without a doubt that the time you are living through right now passes by in a blink. Enjoy your nursery, embrace those very boy- boys. They will foerver be able to sit in your lap, and one day will tell you the sweetest thing a boy ever did tell me “mom, on the hard days, you need to lean on me”. Real love never ends.

  303. Im currently in the last stages of pregnancy with my first child. Over the last week iv been so nervous about how im going to cope…infact…petrified…but after reading this i am full of determination, I can do this, thank you for the inspiring read x

  304. Hi m just 6 weeks pregnant and this is my third pregnancy, The first two ended in a miscarriage and an ectopic respectively. The thought of hearing the word MUMMA really gives me a sigh of relief and can’t wait to get up at 4am for feeds. Waiting to cherish each and every moment of MOTHERHOOD. Very well penned and yes I CRIED….

  305. This is the most perfectly written piece on motherhood I have EVER read. I tried to read it again, but the sobbing that ensues is hard to stop. (8 1/2 months pregnant w/ my 2nd boy!). This article couldn’t have come at a more perfect time for me. My 2 year old’s words last night (after I told him to get back in bed for the 10th time) were, “Mommy, I just need you.” Couldn’t be more true.

  306. Thank you for this… I really needed this, and your blog made me realize how much I’m needed and loved by my kids ^_^

  307. Thank you for a beautiful piece of writing that hits so many points. My mum, 85 and still gong strong, has a saying passed on from her mum which I think says it all ‘when they’re young they make your arms ache, when they’re old they make you’re heart ache’

  308. What a tender 3 am “I love you.” Today is busy, and yes, we are so needed, but I agree, it is perfect and I wouldn’t trade it for anything. Thanks for writing this.

  309. I literally have tears rolling down my cheeks. I’m a Mummy to 6 and 2 year old girls and bouncing baby boy who is 6 months old….I needed this today! Thank you xxxxxx :-)

  310. I sooooo needed to read this after a morning of feeling frustrated with no time for myself. It brought me to tears! Thank you for putting things in perspective for me!

  311. This is probably the most beautiful thing I’ve ever read. I’ve shared it with everyone I know. You have made a difference in my life! Thank you! Now I want another baby!

  312. Thank you, thank you, thank you!! I read this with tears in my eyes after being up all night with a 5 week old. You truly put it in perspective. loved it.:)

  313. I am the grammy now. My daughter and now my daughter and her family have never lived more than 10 minutes apart. Until school started this year, I watched her two sons from birth for 4 hours mon. thru fri. Right now due to God’s plan for all of us, we have been apart since right after Thanksgiving. They will be moving here in two weeks. I can’t wait. To be needed by them again in closer proximity is truly my gift from God.

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  315. Well written! I am a mother of eight! I have experienced the late night feedings (followed by a 3yo with a nightmare) for about 20yrs. Now, my oldest is 24 and my youngest is 4yo, and all those in between all have different needs… It is still hard some days to find time for myself, but easier on other days… and honestly, I miss having babies and toddlers. :-) I remember very well when I had to realize that THIS is my job… and that I’d have this job for a long time. And, yes, it is much easier once you realize it. Your post brought tears to my eyes! Great job expressing how wonderful it is to be a mom!

  316. This put me to tears as my best friend told me I needed to read this as I have had some hard days lately and it really hit home.I’m currently pregnant with my 4th and some days it has been really difficult to be a mother. Thank you for this as it made me feel normal again.

  317. I am only 22 years old. I am a mother and a fiance. I am young, immature, and selfish. I have difficulty being needed twenty-four seven. There’s always something I’m not doing right; the house isn’t clean enough and I don’t want to be the one to change Katie’s diaper. I often forget what it feels like to sit down. Carrying seventeen pounds around takes a toll on your muscles. I have aches and pains and it would be nice to take a long, hot bath with a glass of wine. However, when she sees me she beams and all of my wants go away for a little while; until my fiance gets home that is.

  318. The phase of life where your arms are no longer their home and your kisses no longer their cure (beautiful beautiful words, btw!) is not horrible, as you can relate and share on an adult level. It is really wonderful to see your kids as competent adults! That said, I often wish I could get in a time machine and go back to those moments when I was overwhelmed by the demands of my 5 kids and didn’t do a very good job of reveling in being their mommy. There are lots of things I might have done differently if I could, much earlier on, have wrapped my head around the idea that I should fall in love with all of the moments of motherhood, and not just the easy ones.

  319. As the 21 year old son of a wonderful mother and father, this beautifully written piece made me weep. I may not need my mom to feed me and clothe me anymore, but she will always be my mom, even when I have children of my own. When your little boy is a big man, he will still say “I love you.”

  320. So true, every last bit. Makes my heart burst with love for my boys. Thank you for reminding me to enjoy this stage rather than feel like I am just keeping my head above water. I definitely don’t want it to end when you put it like this.

  321. Thank you. I needed to hear this. I have my 3 babies all on my own and its a tough exhausting job buyt this put it back into perspective for me. Its the best job I never want to forget those I love yous and smiles that great me each morning. God blessed me when he gave me these babies and I am so greatful.
    So heres to all us moms who are living off coffee fueled energy today.

  322. You have spoken to so many mommies out there. I love reading the ones like these that seem to be written just for me. THANK YOU! I have never read your blog before, and sitting here in the wee hours of the morning after getting my husband off to work, trying desperately to get my cup of coffee down before the house awakes and they all “need me”….. and now, my baby girls little whimper is what I hear over the monitor. :) It can be so much at times, so many kids of different ages and stages in life… from diapers to highschoolers and in-betweens…toddlers and drama…but I wouldn’t change it for anything. God chose ME to be their mamma, and I am so blessed. Thank you again for this beautiful reminder!

  323. Try to look forward to when they ARE grown men. Every stage of parenthood is wonderful and when they are grown and you can have conversations with them and learn from them as well, it is even better! You have many great years of parenting to look forward to.

  324. Beautifully written… And, as a 26-year-old son who has moved out and married, it’s good to be reminded that somebody I needed might also need me.

  325. This made me cry!! Just so lovely! Should be written in a book! I would buy it! Just lovely♥

  326. Being a Mommy never changes, not even when the kids are all grown up and have babies of their own. My Mom used to say “once you have children, you have them for life, not only until they are grown up and out of the house”. This is so true! once they get married, your worries becomes more: ” Are they happy? Does she enjoys what she was used to?, etc.etc. Then comes the grandchildren , and your worries becomes even more: “Does your children give them enough love?, Do they raise them to become mature and stable grown-ups?” and many more questions.

    I still think of them as “little” at times, and wish I could turn back the clock, just to give them another hug, hold them a little longer.

  327. Beautiful!! My oldest is 20 and my youngest is 7. I feel like things are way busier now and it’s more hectic than ever. I loved the days before my children were in school, we live out in the country so we spent our days home and going to see Daddy on the tractor.

    I love life now and enjoy seeing who my children are becoming, I love hearing them play piano and sing. I was delighted with the first experience of Prom dress shopping with my oldest daughter-Prom here is a fun, special event where the entire community can go.

    I will treasure the memories of my little ones and am looking forward to the grandma stage of life. I know we are given families to help us to be happy, and I am so lucky to have had the days when I heard “Mommy, Mommy, Mommy” so many times I wanted to scream. I now treasure every time my youngest still calls me “Mommy” and not just ” Mom” because I know soon I’ll just be “Mom” – it good, but not the same.

  328. How very beautiful. I remind myself of this as well, as I care for my now 7 & 9 year olds. I try to treasure this time with them, knowing that I get to tuck them safely in to bed each night and that my hugs, songs and prayers are required for them to fall asleep.

    Thank you for sharing.

  329. I love this and I will try harder not to take all these things that make me MOMMY for granted. Thank you.

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  331. I loves this, like everyone else I read it thru tears rolling down my cheeks. I am a Mom without a Mom, I lost her 3 years ago while I was pregnant with my son. And not a day goes by that I don’t need her, and wish that for just a moment I could go home to her, and feel safe in her arms. Hearing at tiny little voice calling me Mommy in the middle of the night makes that ache just a little bit more bareable.

  332. Beautifully written. You will find “that” love one more time in your life and it’s with your grandchildren. I am lucky enough to what them, and it brings the same kind of joy and needs as being their momma. Nothing better in the world.

  333. I loved you article. It really touched my heart and made me cry. I too have 3 children and know the exhaustion, frustration and sometimes boredom that can come with being a stay at home mom. I also know the peace of late night feedings, the joy of a toddler’s arms around your neck and the wonder of your children blossoming all around you. I am at a different place in my journey now, and my children are all grown and on their own. When I first read your article I felt a sense of loss and sadness. After thinking about it however, I came to realize that “mommy, someone needs you” is something that is always a part of our lives. They still need us at 1 am when their heart is breaking over a lost love.. They still need us when they aren’t sure which path is the best for them in their career. They still need us to hold all the memories of who they are and where they have come from. They still need someone that believes the very best of them and is in their corner always and forever. They need someone to read an beautiful article on mommies and the children that need them and cry because they see their own hearts in those words. They need a place where they always have been and always will be the true love of someone’s life. And beyond all that they need someone who will love THEIR children with a crazy, incredible, blind love that is beyond anything I have ever experienced before.

  334. How sweet. I have an 11 year old son who is trying to no longer need me Lol, and a 4 month old daughter. I love the part about it just being you & her at 4 am. That’s exactly how I feel each morning. Just me and her awake for no apparent reason, while the rest of the world sleeps. Annoying, but I wouldn’t trade it for anything. Sometimes its just what I need, other times I wish my husband would stop faking sleep & accompany her, but after reading this, I too am happy she needs me. I think our morning ritual will be more enjoyable from now on.

  335. So beautiful! As a mom of 6 it is hard to find the peace in the chaos. But this definitely makes me think differently. Our babies grow too fast and we will someday miss the craziness! Thank you for writing this and reminding me to just soak it all in!

  336. I sooo loved this! We, moms that is, sometimes take for granted the role we play in these little lives and don’t always remember to slow down and cherish them. Thank you for putting my importance back into perspective!

  337. In reading this, I’ve come to see this from a mom/grandma view. Time is flying by, grab hold of every moment like it would be your last. And be thankful for every day that has been given. The generations depend on you.

  338. Touché. You say everything I feel. I needed that, as I go through my 4ams, my crazy 5 and 3yr olds screaming at each other, screaming at me and screaming the small house down.

  339. Lovely rendition of being a ” mommy”! What a blessing it is to be a woman and accept this calling! Your children will cherish their mommy always!!

  340. Thank you for reminding us of all that is so often forgotten. Your post brings back the reality of something that can sometimes be so chaotic and forgotten. Being a mom is the best gift EVER!!!

  341. As a Mom of 5 boys and 1 girl and now a grandma to 12, I loved it. Now a Grandma of 77 years old and so enjoy being asked to baby sit my youngest grandchildren of 8, 6 and 2.

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  343. As a mom who is on the other side, with wonderful children who are 25 and 28 and definitely have lives and loves of their own…I can appreciate your words. Also having parents in Assisted Living and Memory Care, I can feel their pain. Ultimately, life is short and fleeting. Savor every moment and let those those you love know how important they are to you and that you will always need them.

  344. oh my gosh this is so true ..I’m old still married but my child is grown up and now it is I don’t need you but does love me she had two beautiful cildern who got to stay with me a lot now growing into teenagers the thrill of staying with her gogo and needing her is far and few in between visites Brayden on the other hand still likes coming and staying and some day like the story ststes we will be in our wheel chairs never to hear I need you again..that was a very happy but sad story and gets you to thinking I’ve not stopped crying sence read it.. I had 5 wonderful years with Karrie after she was born before I went back to work I enjoyed each and everyday with her we played outside, we had tea partys in the tub, we went for walks , to the parks , went to the crecks caught fish , but the funest thing we played on our back pourch in a play house with fake food and drinks and even thow I couldn’t carry a tune in a bucket Karrie would say mommy sing to me I would sing you are my sunshine and she claped give me big hugs and said I loved that mommy..then after going to school 5 years and no more partys you kinda feel left out again .but Karrie always had friends over I took them to the mall , out to eat , we went to the movies , sleep overs every weekend that was like mommy I need you even thow I could of cleaned house or pampered myself I enjoyed being with my only child and her friends then they get married once again don’t need ya but the love is still there…

  345. Thank you so much for this blog! My husband and I were on the fence about the whole baby and kids thing. This blog post made us realise we just don’t want kids and that is okay. You are the best!

    • that is totally ok!! And i have said before…some of the couples who have chosen not to have children have been either the best ‘ aunties and uncles’ or have stepped up and done things that parents who are busy with their kids are not able to do or volunteer at! thank you!!

  346. This was amazing.As a 29 year old mother of two boys and a beautiful new daughter this is just what I needed something to remind me of how lucky I am to be right where I am today THANK YOU SO MUCH:)

  347. Put me into tears.. I miss hearing mommy mommy mommy. My boys are 23 and almost 18. This time has just flown by and I wonder where it has gone. Hold on to them they grow so fast

  348. This was so wonderful to read and really hits home. Our job is so hard but so rewarding. Thank you for sharing these emotions with us! ❤️ Couldn’t love this post more.

  349. As a mom of 4 boys who have grown up and had kids of their own I want to say you hit the nail on the head. I am indeed at the point you speak of and am also a widow so I am alone, but I wouldn’t undo having,them.

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  351. God’s MERCY that we can be reminded of what we have gone through and survived with God’s HELP; so that we are able to HOPE for our future : )))

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  353. Wonderful! This is a beautiful piece.
    I have a 9 year old son with Autism, and 3 year old boy-girl twins. It’s overwhelming! I lay awake early in the morning sometimes, worrying what my kids will be when they don’t need me anymore. Will my oldest ever not need me? Will my twins be their brother’s keeper,and make sure the world doesn’t run him over? … Then, my alarm clock goes off, and I scramble to turn it off before it wakes a twin up- it’s so hard to get my son and myself ready with them stalking me in the mornings.
    I miss my Mommy. Sometimes I wish I could still sit in her lap and hear her tell me I’m doing alright.
    This article touches on the beautiful, bittersweet parts of being a mommy.

  354. This is beautiful, and I am so happy that I got to read this today. Such wonderful words full of so much love. I am a 26 year-old “woman” attempting to build a life and family of my own, and I have no clue where I would be or what I would be without either of my parents. I am mortified of having children honestly, because I am scared of stretching myself so thin and not being able to be super mom that my mom was, but this article makes it seem so much more than the perils I have come to fear. Thank you.

  355. I am 37 weeks pregnant. I went to bed at 10pm Friday night. It took me 4 hours to get comfortable enough to fall asleep at 2am. At 3:20, my 4 year old came in my bedroom and woke me up. “Mommy, I’m all wet,” he said. I had to clean him up, change him and get the sheets washed. Then he went back to bed with me (because I have yet to buy another set of sheets for his bed). I never fell back asleep though I tried until 6:30 Saturday morning. Finally, I gave in…time for coffee. 10 minutes later, my son is up as I am rocking all alone in the living room. “Mommy, can I cuddle with you?” he asked. And he crawled up in my lap for 30 minutes, head on my shoulder, rubbing my pregnant belly. It just reminded me that being a mommy is the hardest AND most rewarding job I’ve ever had. I posted about it on Facebook, and a friend responded with a link to your post. It was just what I needed, and I cried like a baby (certainly it had nothing to do with pregnancy hormones!). THANK YOU for the reminder that I should be grateful that somebody needs me.

  356. This post made my heart swell with joy and pride in being a mother and a parent. Beautifully written! Being a mommy of two young girls, I feel as much as they need me, there is a big part of me that needs them very much too. You’re so right, someday the time will come when the degree of their need for us may decline. So today, although we’re faced by the sometimes daunting and consuming task of motherhood, we have to cherish these moments and count our blessings and remain ever so present in our children’s lives. For when the day comes that they’ve grown up and are consumed with their own lives, I much rather hear them say, “Thank you for being there when I needed you.” rather than “Where were you when I needed you?!”

  357. I just read your post while rocking my 8 week old little boy who refuses to nap anywhere but in my arms making getting anything done virtually impossible. However, your words reminded me that at the top of my to do list is to love him, cuddle him and be his mommy for whatever he may need, and as long I accomplish those things every day, I have succeeded…the rest of the list can wait. Thank you for that reminder :)

  358. This is lovely, as a mother and grandmother I will pass this to all you mother’s take time and enjoy your children, they want your time and love. When your little boy or little girl comes to you and askes “mommy play with me” leave what you are doing (no it’s not the right time it never is) one thing for sure they will never remember the dishes were done, nor their clothes were ironed nor the floor was clean, but they will remember the sily little games you played with them, when you made a tent under the table, the pinic you had on the living room on a raining day. I knew then that all those hugs and all those precious moments were to become a memorie …Now I have grandchildren and I once again take time to play with them. When they come over my world stops, it’s my time because I know this time will once again be a memory……

    • ahhhh….
      Cleaning and scrubbing can wait till tomorrow,
      for babies grow up, we have learned, to our sorrow.
      So, fly away cobwebs. Dust, go to sleep.
      I’m rocking my baby and babies don’t keep.

      from a magazine when my first ones were small.

  359. amazing but i must tell you – your children will always need you. no matter how old they are.. WE always need somewhere in our heart our parents, aren’t we?

  360. This was beautifully written. Thank you for sharing!! As a mom of 6 kids (age 10 yrs to 9 months), sometimes I feel overwhelmed with the amount of “someone needs you”. I love my children & wouldn’t trade them for the world. & on the hard days, I try to remind myself that one day they will be grown & gone.

  361. I remember those days, and today I have time for the pedi or mani……but I still long for the days when …”Somebody needed me!” They go by very quickly! I cherish every single moment and LOVE DEARLY when my twenty-somethings call and NEED ME!!

  362. Nobody needs me anymore. And that’s OK, because that’s what stage I am at in my journey. And it seemed to happen so fast. I was in the thick of it: “Mommy! Mommy! Mommy!” Then it was “Mom”. And then it got quiet. Now they visit occasionally, text often, phone hardly ever.

    Find small pockets of quiet in your days, if even just two minutes, to sit, close your eyes, breathe, and quiet your thoughts. Then go be Mommy again!

    This former Mommy is rooting for you!

  363. So beautiful. Such beautiful imagery. I have walked only 1/3 of a mile in your shoes but the similarities are astonishing. Cheers to you mom….for figuring it all out. <3

  364. This is absolutely beautiful, and touched my heart so much!
    My children are grown now and I have 4 grandchildren now.. I have 3 grandson’s and 1 granddaughter who was just born February 16 /2014.
    It’s amazing how children call for mommy a million times more than they ever call for daddy even when he is home.. Lol

  365. I try to remind myself of this everyday. This time is passing quickly. I have a 7 year old, 4 year old twins, and a 2 month old. I’m exhausted. My clothes don’t fit. My hair isn’t washed today. I often forget to take a drink of water. But I am loved. Thank you for your story. My mommy hormones are raging and I’m crying my eyes out.

  366. I am proud to say I can return the love and caring to my mum who is 84 and has some short term memory loss after suffering a stroke 3yrs ago.. These words are beautiful and brought tears to my eyes. Thank-you for the reminder!

  367. My beloved daddy died in an assisted living facility the day you posted this. He was 97, but we still needed him right up until he went home to be with his Lord. Never think you won’t be needed – it’s just that the needs will change. Your children will need you in ways even they might not consciously recognize, and your love for them now will continue to nourish them after they’re grown, and even after you’re gone.

  368. While I understand the heart and intention of this post, and I could relate to most of it, I have to say that this part disturbed me: “Mommy means my husband and I haven’t had a real conversation in months. Mommy means I neglect myself and put others before my needs, without a thought.” As mothers, we are called to sacrifice, but we are also called to sacrifice for and be in relationship with our spouses. If we don’t have real conversations with our partners, we aren’t modeling good relationships for our kids and we aren’t taking care of ourselves. Maybe it sounds selfish to think that we should take care of ourselves, but I think I’m called to sacrifice for my daughter—not to be a martyr. I’m allowed to have quality time with my husband, and not wait until she is 18. I am allowed, at the very LEAST, an uninterrupted shower (I still have a baby but with kids I nannied, we had a no disturb rule for the bathroom unless someone has an emergency.). Learning boundaries is so healthy for kids and saves our sanity as parents as well. This is impossible without a supportive partner though. I know so many couples who don’t connect with each other or themselves—the kids leave home and they are completely floundering. The Bible says we should love others as we love ourselves—-and I’ve found it’s harder to love others if I’m not loving myself first. I hope you will give yourself permission to have quality time with your husband and yourself.

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    • Thank you for your wise words and I completely agree. I was using many of the things you mentioned really more as a metaphor for how crazy life is these days. Rest assured that my husband and I make time for date night and I always find some time to escape to the mall:)

  369. I have 6 kids under seven years old. I totally relate. I have to tell you though, I recently hired a nanny and my life and stress level have really changed! I find I am a much better mom being able to take care of me a little. That being said, great blog!

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  372. I loved reading your story and it is so very true having a young teenager and an almost adult teen I can relate to your story and remember those gorgeously chaotic days but they are so very fleeting and within a blink of an eye you are no longer wiping runny noses or reading we’re going on a bear hunt for the millionth time, suddenly you are mums taxi and guest house for your child and her friends or suit shopping for your sons first day at work so although my days of mother and toddler groups and 3am wake up calls are over I cherish the time I’m spending with my children who still need their mummy going into adult hood and cherish the memories my children have given me as babies, every stage of parenting is precious and all to fleeting and as much as we moan we wouldn’t have it any other way, thanks for your story it’s the reminder we all need sometimes to just stop sit back and enjoy the moment!

  373. theres no other reward for this than a like-for-like reciprocation from a child to their mother in her old age, when “daughter”, “son”, mommy needs you.
    here is what God says in the Quran:
    Al-Ahqaf – 46:15
    And We have enjoined on man to be dutiful and kind to his parents. His mother bears him with hardship and she brings him forth with hardship, and the bearing of him, and the weaning of him is thirty (30) months, till when he attains full strength and reaches forty years, he says: “My Lord! Grant me the power and ability that I may be grateful for Your Favour which You have bestowed upon me and upon my parents, and that I may do righteous good deeds, such as please You, and make my off-spring good. Truly, I have turned to You in repentance, and truly, I am one of the Muslims (submitting to Your Will).”

    Al-‘Ankabut – 29:8
    And We have enjoined on man to be good and dutiful to his parents, but if they strive to make you join with Me (in worship) anything (as a partner) of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not. Unto Me is your return, and I shall tell you what you used to do.

    Luqman – 31:14
    And We have enjoined on man (to be dutiful and good) to his parents. His mother bore him in weakness and hardship upon weakness and hardship, and his weaning is in two years give thanks to Me and to your parents, unto Me is the final destination.

  374. What a lovely perspective for us busy moms to keep in mind. Sometimes it’s overwhelming to compare my current role as mom with what I look at my own mother for. I don’t need her in the same way, but she is still everything to me and when I think that *that’s* what I am to my children? Wow. Now is the time to sacrifice so that they will be productive and happy members of society later. SOOO worth it!!

  375. Oh boy lady you’re making me cry! I just had twins and it has been a struggle at times and sometimes I get mad at my 3 year old son for saying “mom babies need you” and then also the “I love you” part my 3 year old when I’m tired and stressed will often come tell me I’m beautiful and he loves me and it always makes me feel better it is sad to think one day I won’t have that anymore these are the hard years but maybe some of the best years it is true.

  376. This story is beautiful but breaks my heart at the same time. My Daughter passed away just over a year ago leaving her Husband and 22 month old son. We are all trying to help take care of him and I thank my Heavenly Father for the chance to do that for my Daughter but no matter how much we love him and care for him it will never be the same as that Mothers Love. I end up in tears everytime I think about what he is missing. He still lets us rock him to sleep for naps, oh how I savor those moments because I know someday soon he is going to out grow these precious times. So Moms love them all you can, while you can because life. Is short.

    • I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your daughter. I will say a prayer that you, your grandson, and son-in-law feel this special angel is watching over you.

  377. This was so perfectly written, you have captured the essence of being a mom……and then not being an active mom. I remember so clearly the day a co-worker assured me that someday I would miss the busy-ness of my life, the constant push and pull and attempt to balance it all. Now I revel in the ability to jump into the car and get the mani pedi whenever I want it, and the time I have all to myself. But then when there is an opening of someplace cool, or a great kids event…..I have no one to share it with….until my granddaughter is old enough. Yes, I will relive mommyhood through her; in a much more fun way, even she is long distance and visits will be in short spurts.

  378. Thank you so much for this! I’m a mother of a 7 yr old, 3 yr old and 5 month old twins and I cried! I read it to my mom and we cried together. thanks so much for the happy tears and reminder that being needed is a great feeling! After I read it to my mom I said “i still need you ma” and I’m 30.

    Thanks again! xo

  379. This is exactly how I feel right now, every exhausting minute. One second is “when will this phase end” the next second “please don’t ever end”. 2 little boys who need me for everything, even if they are capable of doing it themselves, this reminds me to stop arguing about them doing it themselves and just help them because they need me and in a way-to-short time, they won’t.
    Beautiful, thank you!

  380. My only child will soon be leaving for college, and it has finally sunk in that she will not need me anymore. She will no longer be in the room right down the hall from mine. No more long, meaningful conversations in car on the way to High School football games. No more watching her cheer out on the field, as her daddy grins from ear to ear with pride! No more stops off at Starbucks. The house that she has called home for the past 17 years, will suddenly be much too quiet. Forever filled with many happy memories, But right now, I would give anything to go back to those days. When she needed me….

  381. Beautifully written. I am crying, because being a mother to a two year old and also trying to work with a part-time home business is completely exhausting. But it’s so true. I need to savour these moments because one day soon they will all be gone and I will be missing them. Thank you for your words that I needed to hear.

  382. Beautiful words! My “babies” are all grown up with babes of their own. *sigh I miss those days of being needed. Perhaps that’s why grandparents spend so much time doting on their grand kids. We know how quickly the time flies and vow to savor each precious moment. You have discovered a gift in your parenting….how lucky you are!

  383. Thank you for writing this and for the beautiful reminder. I am often frustrated when I can’t get things done, or have a few minutes without hearing Mama fifteen times in 30 seconds. It’s hard to remember how amazing it is to be someone’s Mama, and how they NEED you, in those moments but I will try more now because of this article.

  384. As a man who had to work long hours to support my wife and kids when they were growing up, I had to sleep and let my wife do all this stuff. I lamented it at my daughters wedding in my speech. Guys, try to do your bit. I promise you, when they are older, you will regret not spending more time feeding, hugging, holding etc. just as I do. God bless moms everywhere.

  385. Beautiful… I am still crying. I have 3 boys and only my 5 yr old call me Mom sometimes, my older 2 call me Vasquez. Not a day ever go by without my boys running up just say “I live you”. I also hear mommy and Vasquez all day long. Sometimes I feel like I live in a zoo but also know that it won’t last forever. I love being Mom and Vasquez.

  386. This is beautiful. Yes, it is tiring and exhausting taking care of toddlers. But you are so right, these days are so good. We will never get these days back. All we can do is give, and give motherhood our best shot.

  387. Ahhhh I am so there right now. Trying to appreciate the moments and find the balance. There is always something going on. I both long for and dread the time when my boys will no longer need me. My house is a mess and we sometimes don’t brush our teeth until after lunch. I am living for the beautiful moments. And occasionally a nice long shower! Well written, mama! You totally captured the essence of these crazy times.

  388. No matter how old you get they will need you and that is a great thing. My wife and I have three grown and two grandchildren and we are needed and that is a good thing.

  389. Ahhhh I am so there right now. Trying to appreciate the moments and find the balance. There is always something going on. I both long for and dread the time when my boys no longer need me. My house is a mess, and we sometimes don’t brush our teeth until after lunch. I am living for the beautiful moments. And occasionally a nice long shower! Well written, mama! You totally captured the essence of these crazy times.

    • I never had the honor to be a mom, but your piece was touchingly PERFECT & made me feel like I really missed he true meaning of being needed & loved. Keep them close, relive every moment.

  390. A lovely piece… And as one of us who has raised babies and is now in the fabulous champagne bubbly years that are grandchildren, can I just advise that you don’t blink. Not for one single golden minute. It goes by so very fast… I am a blessed mum. My babies still adore me… my grandsons too. But if I could turn back the clock and survive the 4 a.m. feeds and puke on my sleeve, even for one minute, I would. I so would. I love that you love being mommy. What a gift little ones are!!

  391. As mom of 6 ages 18 to 5, I always dream of escaping and being alone. :) After reading this, I realize how important it is for me to be present. I realized awhile ago that crazy, busy is the new normal. Thank you for the reminder to enjoy “being needed” while I can!

  392. Enjoy these precious moments because as my dear mum used to say “they (your children)
    are only on loan to you”.

  393. Ok, Wiping tears right now!! I Love my(Adult) Kids so much!! And proud when they still need me! And now 3 little guys need me!! I will always be there for them!! Proud to be a Mom and a great aunt!! AKA(YA YA)

  394. Beautifully written. I’m not lucky enough to get to have any babies of my own, but my brother and sister-in-law have blessed me with three handsome nephews and a beautiful niece. I know that the small part I play in their lives pales in comparison to the work their mother puts in day in and day out, but on days like today, when I rushed over with “get well” presents to cheer them up after a (thankfully) minor car accident, or on Friday nights when I hear a small voice on the phone asking if they can come stay with me for the weekend, I am grateful to be able to feel needed as well.

    • Don’t underestimate the role you play in the lives of your nephews!! I can’t tell you how many times my sister, who has not been able to have children, has been able to get one of my children to open up to her when, for some reason, they didn’t feel that they could tell me. She takes them to fun places and spends one on one time with them. It is the hardest, most wonderful job to be a mom but I am forever indebted to and grateful for the huge part my sister, and women like you, have in their lives!!

      • Thanks for acknowledging those of us who play the outfield, although I will always admire your resilience& wisdom.

  395. This is awesomely beautiful and really touched me so deeply that I cried my heart out. I remember those days when our children were still very small aged 4, 2 and a few months old. My late husband had wholeheartedly supported me in so many ways; he worked days and I worked evenings. It also reminded me of my late daughter who died 2 years ago this month at 39, when she was diagnosed with brain tumor and she just had her youngest daughter 5 months before that. Before she was sedated to be brought to the OR, I encouraged her to be courageous, pray to the Lord for assistance that she will be alright because her children who were 5 months, 3 and 6 year-old are going to need their mommy. The Lord blessed her with 4 more years of quality time with her family until she had to have another surgery on her 5th year where she never recovered.

    So moms and dads as well, take advantage of the time to spend with your children when they need you and have good quality time with them.

    • May your dear daughter rest in peace. Thankful she had those years. Brain tumors, transform a person, sometimes for the better. It has me & I would Be happy with 4 more years. May your grand children be lights in darkness for you & be a blessing.

  396. Thank you for reminding me how privileged I truly am to be the mother of four wonderful children. I am a single mother and some days are so difficult and I am so tired I really do wish for them to be grown up and life to be easier. You brought tears to my eyes and joy to my heart. I am so happy somebody needs me and I will try to remember that every precious day.

  397. This was so beautifully written. I teared up, because i have had a long day with my 4 boys , even as i type one is crying one is spinning in circles and singing loudly, another is hungry again and the other well he is actually being good right now but thankyou this was a good reminder for me that these days pass quickly. I think i am gonna go do some spinning.

  398. Never forget how much those boys need you, too. Don’t put them on the back burner because you have a beautiful little princess now. Too many parents, esp moms, push the older children away because they are tired and far pressed for time, time to themselves, which will come in time. My heart acts for children that have to adapt to a new life when they are “forgotten” that they were there first and they just want your love and attention.

    • So true! I am having baby number six in 2 weeks and I have always tried to make a conscious effort to not neglect the older children when a new baby comes along. I allow one on one time with them and will never forget they were my first. I am constantly reminding my oldest (daughter) that she is so special and she was my first baby and was the one to make me a mommy :)

  399. you made my heart melt for the children my husband and i long to have. i can’t wait for the day to be the one and only that my kids need. thank you for sharing such a beautiful story.

  400. I cried so hard. I just wrote a blog today about my baby in the NICU who is now turning 1 … and this just touched my heart. So beautifully written and such imagery – I went and held my baby tighter.

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  402. Great read…although I feel that the ‘need’ comes again with grandchildren and is just as magical.

  403. Beautiful line…”sure, they will come to visit, but my arms will no longer be their home”. Just beautiful…and so very true. Lovely!

  404. I absolutely LOVE this. Thanks so much for the reminder. It’s been a rough parenting year for me I feel like…. I need to remind myself more of this perspective. My heart always melts when my lil’ guy tells me he loves me. *sniff*

  405. I am sure there will come a day when no one needs me. My babies will all be long gone and consumed with their own lives. I may sit alone in some assisted living facility watching my body fade away. No one will need me then. I may even be a burden. Sure, they will come visit, but my arms will no longer be the